Exactly! And people forget that it's not just any old kid that could be watching - it could be a gay kid. It could be a kid who's never had their experience reflected in a meaningful way in the media. That can be huge for a kid.

Right? That guy is like the official spokesman for Ed Hardy t-shirts...

I'm guessing you don't know many men. I've had guy friends who got offended when someone called them "cute" because it was such an affront to their "manliness" or something. And have you ever been around a sick guy? They could have a mild cold and they're convinced they're DYING.

I've known guys to be just as emotional - especially about their perceived manliness. Just because we get emotional about different things doesn't mean women are over-emotional and men are stoic to a fault.

Yeah, that's another can of worms...Not to mention that many victims of rape soon become murder victims after their assault. Plus the majority of women (and men!) who are murdered are murdered by men, just as the vast majority of women (and men!) who are raped are raped by men.

Right. Well, we've all made statements we have to amend.

In the vast majority of them, though, nobody does. The point is that rape is still a stigmatized crime. Murder is taken seriously. There's no, "Well, he was wearing that nice watch - I just couldn't help myself." There's no "boys will be boys" mentality about murder. There's no police officer that would tell the…

I never fucking said I was some kind of superior being. All I said, and this should be obvious, is:

Look. All I asked was that you be respectful of these things. I never assumed that everyone's experiences are mine, only that there are rules when engaging in this kind of play and if you don't follow them, it can be dangerous. That kind of thing is where the abuse comes in - not the way the people who follow the…

Uh, no, Haberdash assumed that there is no such thing as a consensual rape fantasy scene. I said there was, demonstrated why, and he or she proceeded to insult me.

Of course not all D/s realtionships are healthy - not all vanilla relationships are healthy either. And I acknowledge that there can be crossover between sexual dominance and abuse. However, dominance isn't really the correct term to use. A better term would be "domineering" or "abusive." I realize it seems like I'm…

Does it make you feel strong to put other people down?

Look. You brought up the BDSM thing. I proved that you had no idea what you were talking about, and you whined like a child. I'm not going to try to prove it again if you're going to be completely close-minded about this. I'm especially not going to have a discussion with you if you insult me. When you behave like an…

Nice evasion.

Yes it is. Again, I wouldn't expect you to know exactly how these things work, but it's important not to lump dominant people in with rapists.

I see your point, I just wanted to make sure that the differences were highlighted. Too often those into kink are stigmatized as violent sexual deviants. I just wanted to be sure you weren't lumping us all together.

People who want to hurt/overpower others during sex aren't always deviant. I'm guess you don't know much about BDSM but it's always centered around consent. I'm a Domme and I would die before hurting someone without consent. Don't lump me in with rapists. It's not nearly that simple.

Uh, no. BDSM *always* depends on consent, even in playing out rape fantasies. I don't expect vanilla people to know this, but it's the first part of a three-part process that was explained to me when I began venturing into this world. The first step is open communication. You discuss what you'd like to try, what's…

Ugh, now I just want to surround myself with Adventure Time toys...

Seriously? It's like you trolls don't even try anymore. You're so obvious...