Still makes light of kidnapping...I don't see how I should change my mind about it because it's equal-opportunity violence instead of just violence against women.

Translation: I am rubber and you are glue. Whatever you say bounces off of me and sticks to you.

You can't take the individual out of culture. Whether the person meant it to be a representation of how violence against women is considered funny is irrelevant. In a cultural context, that's what this is saying. We're all affected by our culture, whether we realize it or not. So it doesn't matter what this individual…

Translation: I have no idea what I'm talking about, but something makes me feel icky about this so I'm going to judge an entire group of people I don't know. Logic!

Here's the thing. We see violence and hatred leveled against women because they are women on a daily basis. Generally violence against children isn't necessarily because they are children, so there's no need for evidence to the contrary. In order for your analogy to work, there would have to be actual seething hatred…

Since the reaction has been negative, and things like this certainly don't make people want to buy these products, how would it mean more business?

Yeah, that's key for subs too. If you can't trust your Dom/me, what's the point, haha?

Yup. If I wear something baggy, it gets wrapped around my arms and torso, so it's basically a straightjacket. If I wear something tight, it just feels constricting.

Yeah, lots of subs feel that way. Submission is their only chance to surrender safely. It's so common...I'm amazed your friends haven't come across that, too. My first subbie was definitely that way. He was a National Guardsman.

I love sleeping naked. I move around a lot, and clothes tend to constrict me.

Haha, I think either would be beneficial. Obviously he's already afraid of women, though, or at least smart, well-adjusted women who stand up for themselves.

Alyssa still always makes that face...the same one she does in the mirror while she gets ready. Love it!

That's a piece of it, for sure. He feels he needs someone to pat him on the back and congratulate him for...something. So he puts on this big, macho act, imagining it will get him the praise he seeks, but really everyone just laughs at him. Some subbies are into humiliation, this dude needs serious guidance.

Not to mention it claims to be about BDSM, but the author clearly has no idea of how BDSM works. All this is is a story about an abusive relationship. When she portrays it as BDSM, it confuses a whole hell of a lot of people into thinking all kinksters are inherently abusive (an image we've been trying to get rid of…

If she does it'll still be a better representation of kink culture than this book. I'm game.

Eh. I don't think the ass-grab part is rape, sexual assault, yes, rape no. But the "O is for oh-so tight" is definitely rapey followed by "N is for no consent."

He probably needs that, too. I was just going by his over-the-top assertions of dominance. No Dom/me is actually like that. Lots of submissive men, though, they're scared of their own desires, so they try to compensate.

Okay, I'm the first to admit that I've been hitting my femdom lifestyle hard lately, so maybe I just have it on the brain. But this dude seriously seems like he's compensating for some very submissive feelings that he doesn't feel comfortable expressing. I'm not saying I'm gonna take one for the team and try…

I think Thicke's wife is trying to be the Cool Girl archetype from Gone Girl.