Ugh, yes, let’s talk about how it’s YOUR mistake. Jeez, women can never win!

“Playing hard to get” and the notion that you can wear a woman down with harassment - sorry- “win her over” are extremely toxic and dangerous tropes. In the real world, when you show up at her door at 2 a.m. soaking wet and on a tirade about how the two of you are meant to be together, it’s not happily ever after;…

Jesus, I’m glad you’re safe. If I can make a suggestion, let the host/hostess know so that they can choose whether or not they want to invite him to stuff again. What a scary person!

My ex once called me after getting out of an elevator, he was upset that the woman inside of it had hugged the wall the entire time and had rushed out when it reached her floor. He couldn’t understand why, because all he had said was "Hello" It took a long time for it to get through to him that it didn't matter that…

I recall telling a male friend once that every woman in my life has been attacked, raped, or physically abused at some point in their life, and that I felt lucky that the worst that has ever happened to me was being stalked and harassed on the street. He was horrified both by what I said about the women in my life and…

Yeah i went out with someone once, they seemed friendly, cool, etc. At one point we had to stop by my place to grab a bus pass.

As street harassment awareness has become more common, my husband (also a feminist) and I have talked about it a lot and in so doing I’ve shared a whole bunch of stories. He is horrified by them and asks “Wait, this happened when I knew you? Why did you never tell me about this?” I was like “This is just normal; more…

I met a guy at a party recently. He kept striking up a conversation with me even though it was clear (to me) that I wasn’t interested. At first, he said “wow - you’re a tough nut to crack!”, then “you seem so reserved - it must be difficult to get to know you, but I want to try! Say, Tuesday night?” (I said no). A…

Danny Glover has a stand up bit where he asks why women don’t have the crazy ex stories that men do. Then he says it is because the women are dead. In the version of his act that I heard, the audience groaned, and he responded with "What? Too real?"

“Why can’t women just be direct and honest if they don’t want to go out with you?!”

On a first/blind date, men fear that she’ll be ugly or “crazy”.

I just want to remind everyone that even if you have not experienced violence or harassment due to rejecting unwanted advances you absolutely know someone who has, this is as horrifying as it is common.

I feel a kind of tired anger over this. Sometimes it just feels like things will never change.

This is off topic and an in appropriate place, but I need help so bad. I have been married for 8 years and for the last year, we have been having a lot of problems. He loses his erection about 90% of the time. While this sucks, its not even what has me the most upset. When it happens, he gets really mean. He has never…

That was literally the first thing I thought when it happened. It was also the thing that made me see the real problem & made me feel really guilty (rightly so). Like, if I wasn't there this guy probably would have felt entitled to chat her up as long as he wanted no matter what she said. He respected the authority of…

When I was living in Ethiopia I would have to deal with men following me down the street and trying to grab me all the time. When I would try to vent to a Ethiopian male friend about it he would say "well you need to be walking with a man so they know they cant do that to you". In alot of ways that reaction was MORE…

See that's the thing I'm most embarrassed about. I had heard from 2-3 different women I know how much they hate it, how disrespectful it is, how uncomfortable & angry it made them but it took someone treating the woman I love like meat in a butcher-shop window to really make me see. I'm kind of ashamed to admit that.…

It can be very invisible unless you're with a woman when it happens, which is rare. I remember in college I was walking down the main drag with my boyfriend, and a car full of guys started catcalling me. I have a pretty bad temper as it is, and it was worse then, AND that is one of my triggers, so I just let loose. I…

While I never cat called a woman before I never use to think it was a big deal. Then one day I ran in to the pharmacy to pick something up while my girlfriend just waited in the car & when I came back some asshole was tapping on her window. He kept knocking on the window, telling her to roll it down, he "just wanted…