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Uh... I do mine weekly monthly whenever it stops being tub-colored

And it's like this across all disciplines. Two of my friends have PhDs in the same semi-obscure field of math; obviously, because I mention it here, one's a woman, the other a man. Dude mentions what he does, everyone gets quiet, a few venture questions, but people just meeting him assume he's a super genius of some…

I was thinking more about this comment, and a large part of the work I do is historiographical, and a big component of my undergrad before moving to Comparative Literature was history (International studies, with a history of diplomacy focus). I have spent a LOT of years researching the cultural implications of the…

Picture yourself:

Well, really, though even if this wasn't the case the answer would be "oh hell no", I have PTSD that manifested on top of an already severe anxiety disorder, and my dogs are service animals, though I don't advertise it. They're not well-trained (I kind of got the independent asshole and the airhead of the litter) (I…

Gross and unhygienic is a part of it. But also I didn't grow up in a house with any animals. Not to generalize but not too many poor immigrant families have pets, you barely make ends meet as it is, having a pet is a "luxury." I didn't know anyone with a pet growing up either. I did get jumped on my a German Shepherd…

Ha! I can top that! I had a date with a guy who expected to drive my car! No, really, he thought I was going to hand my car keys over to him and let him drive! A guy who lost his license and did not own his own a car (he wrecked his parents) thought I, who had just met him, was going to hand over my car keys and let…

I really appreciate that you know you don't want kids around so you make it a rule to not date single dads. I wish more women would think like this. During and after my mother's death my dad dated a woman in her 20s who was abusive to me. It was clear that she liked my dad but didn't like me (or any kid for that…

Agreed. My friend, who's also Jewish, went to meet her then fiancee's extended family. The first thing one of them say to her is, "We just need to get this out of the way, but our family doesn't believe the Holocaust actually happened." To this day I still don't know why she married into that family (her husband's no…

I'm going to nominate the addition of Bukowski to that list.

It's amazing we didn't turn into a generation of plushies. Is Maid Marian as beloved to young boys as Robin Hood was to young girls*? I never thought about it but how could you resist her skills at badminton?

In Which My Clitoris Sends A Text:

"Have you ever seen a black penis?" Who's fucking business is it what dicks I've seen and why would it be so outlandish for me to have seen one of color??

If a dude tells me he doesn't like, or won't read, female authors, I'm OUT.

For me, the biggest dealbreaker is if someone demonstrates their unwillingness to be generous or share. I had a really terribly relationship for 2 years that I should have noticed was wrong wrong wrong early on, but I had self esteem issues and had a hard time believing I deserved better. For all the big picture…

I found out that his mother drove an hour in from the suburbs once a week to clean his bathtub for him.

Throwing garbage out of car windows. Not a cigarette. Like oh I'm done with ____ rolls down window and tosses. I dated a girl who did this and was so instantly turned off because I actually didn't know grown up humans did such things.

He's certainly done a damn sight better than every adult in an official authority position. That school administrator needs to be fired... out of a cannon, into a pit of hungry grizzly bears.

The wherewithal of that kid to in the beginning to repeatedly ask, "so she was down with it at first" and then "at all, at all," to clear up ANY questions regarding consent, is unreal. Sounds like he's a trained undercover agent more than a high school kid.