Thank you, this is exactly the kind of response I was hoping for — I had no sense of how common/weird these notes were. Thanks for adding your professional insight!

Absolutely. I just have no idea what the norm is. I’m on board with her calling him out, I just want the insider perspective on how out of bounds this is. Like, I could see a casting call saying, “Character is tough, sexy, and tomboyish; please dress appropriately,” or “casual wardrobe preferred” or “Character Elle…

I have never been in so much as a school play, but if I was auditioning for a role and someone sent me not just the scenes but the entire script, I would read that thing cover to cover. Seems like basic professionalism to me.

My answers, in reverse order:

I don’t know enough about acting as a profession to be properly grossed out by this. Is this a note for how female actors should dress while they’re reading the script at the audition? Do people normally give wardrobe notes to A-level actors? I want to be suitably enraged but I don’t understand what’s happening here.

Thanks for the reply! I’ve quit a major job once already to live abroad for a year and write and it was the best choice I ever made. Now I’m gearing up for round two, but I don’t want to keep hopping back into full-time 9-5 work whenever my savings run out; I want to leave that behind for good. I’ve been thinking that…

Actually, I run the place, I’m home by noon every day, and I have all the time in the world to work on my marginally successful fantasy series.

My preemptive response to all of these:

I’m pretty sure the OP means “number of sexual partners”, if that clarifies it. ;)

Oh! Thanks for that info. I have friends who would fit that description, so good to know!

In my college, we had a traditionally black full-ride scholarship that dozens of students received every year, and they always brought the rewardees to campus in the spring for a carnival to entice them to come. While I was a student there, the college was forced to open the scholarship to applicants of all…

No matter how strongly you suspect someone is lying, the social contract dictates that you can’t say so, so you end up acting like you believe the lies just to be polite. And, meanwhile, you’re fully aware that you’re being manipulated and you resent it. [..] But, I don’t know, trying to get us to pity her feels like…

I once gave an “interview” where I just wrote a thing about myself and someone published it. A busy/lazy reporter at a laid-back publication might just have let her write her own bio. It really reads like her own language — her “raw talent” is “undeniable”, she’s a “rainbow”, there’s that weird swastika transition to…

She went to Howard on a full financial scholarship.

Go big or go home. She’s like the Dos Equis Man of compulsive lying.

“Coming from a trans-racial family that has hop-scotched to a variety of racial-tension areas, I have seen racial hatred in many forms,” she says.

So here’s a question: we may have seen Jon Snow get stabbed upwards of ten times, but do we actually see the life go out of his eyes? No. In the books and the show, we cut to black as he lies there, perfectly still, staring at the sky. Since that’s all we get, that’s all I will accept as truth until shown otherwise.

Steam would have been pouring out of my ears if I’d endured a conversation like that with someone I shared a home with. >:(

YES! The people comparing this to transgender issues are missing that fundamental part of it. If someone identifies as female, great, welcome, enjoy it. And if you’re lucky enough to be able to pass in the way you want, no one should judge you for that, and you might even experience sexism because of it. But if a…

I think you should talk about it. Not only because of the religious persecution angle, but because dealing with trolls and bullies is something they’ll all face sooner or later. You could inadvertently help a teen deal with depression, slut-shaming, body image, racism, homophobia, etc. It’s so hard as a kid to…