Yuuuuuuuuuuuup. I used to think I had to write a profile that would somehow weed those guys out so they'd never message me. Then I met a few guys who admitted that they literally send the same blanket message to every woman whose pictures they like without reading profiles at all. Now I tailor my profile to weed out…

WHY DOES THIS NOT HAVE MORE STARS?

Honestly? I've come to believe that FB is the wrong medium for those conversations. Make note of the people who are saying things like that and if you ever happen to be sitting down with them, bring it up and try to have an honest talk about it. Most people have a harder time being a jerk in person than when they can…

I would watch the shit out of that movie. (The Skynet Versus Caesar movie, not One Hundred Years of Smelting Ore.)

They don't legally need the school's permission. She can file charges, but it's difficult to get justice that way. Most campuses have student codes of conduct - don't call anyone a racial slur, don't poop on anyone's pillow, don't plagiarize, don't rape. Violating the code of conduct can and should get you expelled…

Rape is a crime, and any student is within her/his legal right to report a crime to the police and pursue justice that way.

As the palest white person ever, I understand where this ebullience is coming from.

I might get pilloried myself for saying this, but I keep mixing him up with the Bolton bastard. I can't tell their faces apart unless I have their pictures side by side. I think it's the hair that keeps throwing me off.

Gaaaaaah. (Not directed at you, directed at J and anyone who thinks that kind of nonsense is appropriate past the age of 25.)

I second the volunteering suggestion. It really will make you feel less depressed the more often you do it. And, on the less altruistic side, it adds something to your resume. Let's say life sucks for a bit and you stay unemployed for a year. (I know I know I know, and fingers crossed it won't happen, but let's say.)…

You're wonderful. The #1 most important thing right now is that she knows she has your continued love and support, and you've given her that already.

That suuuuuuuuucks. I'm so sorry.

People hate the uniform (and what it represents). If you encounter that level of hate, try to find a way to remind yourself that people don't hate Pilot to Gunner, they hate the police as a monolith. Yes, when stories about police brutality come out, people will say "police officers are sociopaths" in the same way we…

Ich Bin Ein Noodle

Lucky discontinued my fit (Sophia) in black and I very nearly had a panic attack in the store - they were already gone.

Oh my god, oh my god, oh my god. You poor thing. I'm SO GLAD you were able to protect yourself, but holy fucking hell. Fuck everything.

This is not a tangent. This is the heart and soul of the whole issue: white people have our collective heads in the sand on issues of race.

YES, seriously. When did this happen?

I HATE THAT. That is all I have to say.

Aw, that is awkward. Have you ever tried getting together with just your boyfriend and one of his male friends for brunch or something? It might make a difference if you take the time to socialize with them more on your terms - sober and in small groups - so that they can get to know you as a person. Then when you…