First, I appreciate that you're trying, because it sounds like you are. I'm going to encourage you not to respond to me, because I don't want to get into a long back-and-forth. I'm just going to try to address some of what you said, and let you marinate on it, and hopefully help resolve some of these issues that seem…

Ohmygodthankyou. All of the stars. All of them.

I hate, hate, hate what Joan Rivers did. That said, making a joke in (terrible, horrible, shameful, unforgivable) bad taste doesn't compare in my mind with running someone over and kicking him in the head twenty times, and it seems like at least some of these guys have also tried to commit rape, and are likely to keep…

Yep. I read this and thought, "Probably sociopaths, probably going to be millionaires, go sour in middle age when their intimidation and self-certainty can't save them from aging, then develop an addiction, cheat on their wives, have horrible relationships with their children, and die alone." I'm a silver-lining kind…

When you say terrifying to encounter, can you elaborate - do you mean it was unpleasant to demand that they leave the library because they were jerks, or were you concerned that they would threaten/assault you for doing your job?

God, I'm so sorry you went through that. How awful. The way universities handle rape accusations makes me sick. We've got to be able to do better than this.

Here's a simple litmus test:

An American Indian headdress is a religious item. It's not equivalent to an afro. Really, truly, I'm not making that up. The best analogy I've heard is to compare it to a purple heart. It's something earned and special and sacred. I wasn't trying to draw a line-by-line comparison between blackface and headdresses, so…

Your kid should not wear an Indian headdress for Halloween because it is racist. Nor should they call an American Indian a "redskin."

It's possible that you are being catcalled, but you just don't notice it. A lot of women start to get really aggressive attention at a young age, so we become hyper-aware of it and notice it even in subtle forms forever after. By contrast, I've witnessed a couple of friends being catcalled who didn't know it had…

I judge people by the diversity I can see at their weddings. If you have 150 people coming to celebrate and no black or brown faces, I judge you. A lot of my white friends fail this test.

+1 for your comment, but +1000 for your username. I wants it.

I'm not going to let anyone forget it. "Oh, you wanna watch the World Cup? Cool, but don't root for Brazil. Why? They let their players chop up women and feed them to their dogs." Every single time I talk to someone about the World Cup, a variation of this story is going to come out of my mouth. If Brazil wants the…

I think you misunderstood the OP's argument. Two points that may help clarify some of the responses you will probably receive:
1. On this site, most of us agree that average women are perfectly sexy, and we also agree that most straight men find normal women attractive. You may have meant well by telling us that most…

Aaaaah! That is the cutest thing on the Internet! If I'd seen that in real life, I would never have stopped laughing. I'm in a much better place now than I was last week, but this is still the most perfect Friday GIF I have ever seen. Thank you for brightening my day. :)

Definitely did not roll my eyes. I don't begrudge you a surprise 30th birthday party. In fact, you sound like you deserved it.

I didn't think of it in that context, but you're almost certainly right. If you teach a 12-year-old that it's acceptable for a total stranger to police whether she wears underwear, how is she going to develop the framework to know when she's being manipulated or judged unfairly as an adult?

Back when I did martial arts, the senseis would have the men line up during testing and check to make sure they were wearing cups with a quick prod to the crotch. The theory was basically, "You're almost certain to be kneed in the nuts during the fighting portion of this test, so let's sort this out now while your…

Noooo, not the re-angry! Fight it! (Unless they're still in your lives and taking advantage of you, in which case do what you've got to do.)

I'm betting at a minimum that if they catch her, they'll shame her into disrobing in front of the congregation to remove her God-blocking items. Doubtful she'll get her undergarments back at the end of service, so heaven forbid she only owns one bra.