A-fucking-men. A friend of mine has a terrible deadbeat dad (who is most certainly NOT going to attend her wedding, even if I have to spend the entire ceremony standing watch at the door). She's already announced that she plans to have her dog walk her down the aisle.

Amen. Also really hard: explaining to your family that they are dysfunctional.

This comment is an excellent example of privilege. I don't mean that in a putting-you-down way; I think it's a great observation. But it is exactly how privilege works: the privileged side assumes their life experiences are normal and anything that doesn't align with their experience is "other." As Trike said, you get…

Yay for toes in the water! Good for you for taking the plunge (and by plunge obviously I mean a slow and careful entrance made while fiercely gripping the ladder/side of the pool while wearing an inner tube and floaty wings, if the idea of a true plunge is too much). I agree, filtering out the baddies is the worst.…

That paragraph was the least convincing / most problematic for me. I'm having trouble nailing down why, but I think it's because he comes down on the side of "women feel like rape culture exists and I respect their feelings."

I never even noticed the "Other" section. I just checked and yep, I have one claiming, "We used to go to school together a long time ago. I think we even went to the same preschool. I've been seeing lots of familiar faces since I got online."

I'm with you on the "people appreciate my generosity" disillusionment. I read exactly ONE PhD dissertation for a friend for free. It took me an entire day, I was unemployed at the time, and aside from buying me lunch her chief response was to tease me when she found a typo I'd missed. Not amused, dude. I fixed about…

I agree that it's probably less of a gender problem and more an art-isn't-serious problem. But in your analogy, you're comparing banter to actual work.

I'm not sure what direction this thread is heading in, but I do want to address the idea that everyone in the Middle Ages had a basically homogenous skin tone depending on how much sunlight their country of origin received.

That guy sounds completely adorable.

"Is that an eel in the water or are you just...OH MY GOD EELS THE POND IS FULL OF EELS!"

Very well said and thought-out. Thanks!

Now I want to see your profile. :)

Yes, because Jamie Lee Curtis, she of the happy-bowel-movement-yogurt, cares what you wear on your feet. As a cashier. Behind cashwrap. Where most people cannot see your feet.

Can I ask you a question on #1? If you're planning on having kids, do you plan to talk to them about it? I'm also fortunate enough to have escaped that particular legacy, but one of the main reasons was that I saw the detrimental effects of alcohol growing up. Since I don't drink (and I'll be damned if I marry an…

I agree, public shaming is only effective if the guy is capable of feeling shame, which some of these creepers just aren't. But if the guy is incapable of feeling shame, then is picking up the phone from the police really going to embarrass/frighten him, or is he just going to pull the bro card and play it off as…

I'm with you all the way. :) Sorry about that - I actually thought I had replied to a different post (the one about stealing a guy's phone and depositing it with the police). Kinja likes to fuck with me sometimes.

That sounds extremely fulfilling, but unfortunately it's absolutely a bad idea. Imagine the reverse: someone takes your bag from you against your will and gives you a business card explaining that you can pick it up from his house any old time. If anyone did that to me, I would consider it "stealing" because the…

Poor lil guy. You can tell by the fear in his googly eyes that he already knows the fate in store for him.

Thank you! I imagine following it up by producing a variety of options and explaining their relative absorbancy, scent or lack thereof, and applicator smoothness.