I’m also disgusted by the assumption everyone involved takes of well, he threw them out. That’s it and sex without birth control is inevitable.

Not just that, but the way she put it: “Why are you always taking a videos of me and I don’t know it?” means that he’s filmed her without her permission more than once, possibly on a semi-regular basis.

My pharmacy won’t refill my birth control even a day early unless I pay out of pocket, because of my insurance. A few times, I can only assume the pharmacy billed the insurance a few days late because I couldn’t refill when I ended a pack because “I should still have 5 days remaining according to the system” even…

> most of us, if not all of us, would have nope’d out on that relationship.

* stunned into silence by this response *

It’s a sign that he is abusive.

Nope, no matter her subsequent actions, what he did was reproductive coercion. It’s abuse and it fucks with your head.

I know, it made me nauseous reading it, more because Nikki was playing it off like it was funny, and it’s not. Is Ian gas-lighting her or something? That was fucking disturbing.

Yeah, I wasn’t given a booklet, but the nurse at my last prenatal visit slipped in some questions while taking my blood pressure. I wish she had done it directly after blood pressure- I like to completely zone out while having my blood pressure taken. But I’m glad she asked, nonetheless. I hope it helps someone.

The number one cause of death among American women is abuse at the hand of their male partners. The number one time this is likely to occur is during pregnancy. I’m almost surprised OB/GYN’s aren’t required by law to hand out those booklets.

My doctor was awesome and spouses were required to leave the room as well.

He’s doing a serious disservice to other men. Generally, playing around with a woman’s birth control will introduce you to a world of hurt.

Also, it’s really fucking awesome that your doctor’s office hands that out at prenatal visits.

I’m so confused how this is any kind of charming.

Seriously, how coddled and unduly confident do you have to be to think that this will just go over as a cute story? This is someone that has never faced consequences in his life.

Thank you! It wasn’t even just that one story...so much of that conversation, what they’re talking about and how he says it, is completely fucked up.

So not only did he throw out her birth control, but then he made sure he was filmed “interviewing” her about it because he knew she would freak the fuck out. Well, that’s....disgusting.

Does Somerhalder assume people will find this story charming because he’s not ugly? Because it contains at least 3 of the warning signs of abuse in the booklet my doctor gave me at my first prenatal visit.

Dude ALL of the weddings I’ve been to in the South were like that - 11am ceremony (usually 1+ hours long) and punch and cake in the basement of the church afterward. AND sometimes they’re even in a dry county, so you either have to wait until a tiny window of 6pm-9pm to go out to a bar afterward or you have to drive…

Also, if you mostly don’t give in but on random occasions do give in*, not only will the kids think you’re more fun than you actually are, but they’ll also learn valuable lessons about the unpredictability of life.