It's a mixed bag. Some of the coolest spouses I hung out with were moms, but there is a *clear* divide between those with children and those without. Also, don't be surprised if people are weird to you because you're "just a girlfriend." But there is a huge, huge issue with self-righteousness in the military. Just be…

That's great you are already thinking about this. People get so snarky about the opposing side (me included) but you have some talent. Tell yourself you are made of many things, mother included but not exclusively.

Kudos to you for doing what's best so your kid can have a stable mom. Mine didn't care enough to take meds, ever, and it affected all of her kids. At least you are trying at the start to get it all under control.

I just want to say I finally see what you're doing here and I dig it. I took one of your comments to mean that even if the mother wasn't producing a lot then she should still only breastfeed at first because it's better than nothing. I don't know if you meant that or not, but you're actually promoting a very good…

How did you not lose it? It's your choice and some crazy old nurse giving your kid a bottle when you clearly knew what to do is terrible. I'm so sorry.

Maybe you should offer up your services, and I am not being completely sarcastic here. He choose to be a journalist/blogger and writes about things outside of his own personal experience. It's part of writing. It's a huge part of internet blogging and journalism. If this were a mommy-site, it'd be a different story.…

You know, I might not be able to have a baby with my husband and we plan to adopt should that be the case. Am I shit person because I would adopt a baby but couldn't afford to buy from a breast milk bank? No? Then no woman is shitty for giving her kid formula, for whatever reason. There are so many variables and it is…

You're not a failure. You shouldn't be depressed. You're doing what's right for your baby.

I have seen women almost starve their newborns because they weren't producing and were mortified at the thought of giving their newborn formula. There shouldn't be any stigma at all, and "a bit of breastfeeding is better than none at all" isn't entirely correct.

There are so, so many reasons baby is formula fed that are much more complicated than mom just choosing it. Medical, sanity, necessity. This kind of hype is why many mothers end up accidentally starving their newborns for a time because while they aren't producing enough milk to do a good job, they feel like they'd be…

I think the point a lot of people miss is describing who a rapist actually is. What do we see in the media, read about in books, and the like? A rapist is simply someone who took advantage of another person, sexually, who did not give consent. Define consent. Show him, if age appropriate, some of these situations.…

DO NOT blame yourself for this shitty situation. While blame and consent might be muddy to you, it doesn't matter. You feel violated. You have tried to tell yourself that "shit happens" and it hasn't work. Please, for your future self, seek some counseling and find a way to cope with this. I don't know what else to…

I wonder if we're talking about talking to teenage boys about this. It should be part of the sex talk! "Just because she bends over, doesn't mean she wants it." "No means no, at any point." "If she's too drunk to talk coherently, you shouldn't have sex." As women, I believe we have a huge responsibility to take care…

If I were Rob, the picture of her smiling coyly to herself would be what killed me. There's there something about it... she's enjoying it. That said, people should stop slaying her. She is 22. She fucked up. No matter how famous she is, she has had an incredibly sheltered life and hasn't had a lot of emotional range…

Thank you! Jeez. I bet Kstew is all types of emotionally delayed because of her sheltered hollywood life. God only knows what this creep said to her to get to her.

I think it's a big issue that Sanders is so much older than her. He completely... well, I speculate... but had to have played her in some psychological way. She just did a Vanity Fair piece about how she had never had anything bad happen to her and she wanted to get fucked up or over, or some such nonsense. She is…

There isn't any excuse, but he is *way* older than her. God only knows what he said so she could have all sorts of feelings and do something fucked up... for once... in her life. At 22, I know I didn't see the big-picture consequences of all of my actions. No one knows the whole situation. I can't imagine growing up…

I'd be fine if they said we couldn't make out, because it levels the playing field. What I hate about the people you were arguing with is that they probably have kids, and teach that shit to their kids. Hetero PDA is the same as gay PDA. As someone guilty of both (best of both worlds, folks!) I just don't see how one…

Thanks, from both of us. I'm on the left too, but sometimes I have to hide from everyone in my own little leftist army spouse corner and weep. Husband's getting out (lost both legs so um, can't operate as a tech anymore) and I'm pretty freaking stoked to enter the normal world.

You're not snarky, it's a legitimate question/thought. I think part of it is buying tickets online and the ticket not accepting the last name as it is on another form of ID. I would probably type the whole name as one word and back it up with ID, but I am not sure it would work like that.