Pinkastan, duh.

Stuff like this always reminds me of the time when I went to London. I wanted to visit Abbey Road and did and saw all the messages written on the gates outside and then thought, you know, why don’t I take my shoes off and walk across the road.

My failures as a human being should have been well apparent by now, tyvm

On Kinja, no one knows you’re a dog.

If the store has a coffee shop, they’ll probably have wifi there. At least in my experience anyway.

...Just in case your the hiring manager is a hipster.

I preached a sermon once where I talked about how embarrassed we should be that we go out to eat after an hour of church and think our generosity doesn’t extend to people working hard for $3/hr. (I’m a pastor at a mainline church) A waitress called two days later and thanked me because apparently a table of Sunday…

That story about the woman who got doused with red wine? I had a similar experience and similarly laughed it off. As a server was setting a nice large martini (with a lemon twist, not an olive) in front of me his hand trembled for some reason and the whole thing went down the front of my shirt. The look of horror on…

And that is come quality pastoring. If you don’t make people in your congregation aware of issues of economic justice you are doing it wrong. But then again I belong to a church that’s been know to dress our Martin Luther statue up in rainbow colored robes for the gay pride parade, so the person who left the tract…

I’m a little late but here goes. I worked in a Gay Dennys in Arizona and soon after gay marriage became legal, I had the most adorable elderly couple of men, one white, one black. They were seated at the counter and had on these beautiful leis. I asked if I could feel the real flowers and asked what the occasion was.…

You shut your mouth Brandy is amazing! Ok, not that amazing, but I do really like her. My mom and I still watch the game and she thinks Brandy looks like a horse. So mean. I genuinely think Brandy is gorgeous and I don't know what my mom's issue is. Also, only Cinderella I acknowledge is Brandy.

This is not a circumstance in which you are going to succeed at blustering about other people being stupid.

This is an utter mess, but this can't be stressed enough: "Having police involvement at the early stages of these investigations is extremely important,." I understand not everyone can or will come forward after a rape, but if you plan to press charges, the sooner the better. It's hard enough to get police to take it…

I started to type a snarky comment about how "I'm sure Jezebel will do the responsible thing and retract or apologize blah blah..." but stopped because I'd rather ask a question.

This whole thing should be a cautionary tale about pursuing narrative and cause over analyzing stories and facts on a case by case basis. But alas, the people that need to won't heed that lesson.

Oh, fuck him. If more such idiots were treated this harshly, maybe we'd see less of this kind of racist misogyny.

If someone is lying, cheating, stealing, abusing substances or putting you at risk of emotional, physical, or financial harm, it might be the best option as a last resort.

Agree, totally. I wouldn't jump right to the ultimatum, but yeah, if there is something that needs to change or you don't want to be in the relationship, it is totally fair to lay that on the line. If they are more attached to their behavior than they are to you, then ok. You aren't obligated to stay in a…

Disagree. Ultimatums *can* be controlling and manipulative. If all you're doing is trying to get someone to do what you want, that's controlling and manipulative. But if they are honest reflections of your feelings—"I need you to stop drinking or I'm going to leave"—then they are fair.