I think, on a personal level, there is no reason not to believe someone who says they were raped. Either they were raped, and they need emotional support and empathy, or they are going through something else crazy and it wouldn't hurt to have some help. From the perspective of the justice system though, we simply…

My college roommate recently came out as trans. She has been doing hormone therapy for two years and just last month finally saved up enough for reassignment surgery. She looks absolutely amazing as a women, which kind of threw me a bit since I found myself weirdly attracted to my one-time bro friend. She has a lot…

I was recently confronted with this issue when my college roommate came out as trans. She started taking hormone therapy and just last month finally saved up enough money for reassignment surgery. I can tell you with 100% sincerity that you would never know she was trans if she did not tell you. She actually looks…

Not sure exactly what you mean, but if you are saying that someone could be convicted of assault for ejaculating on their girlfriend's face while she was sleeping then I am going to have to disagree. It is hard enough to convict a partner of violent rape, let alone something where consent is unsure. As bad as women…

There are tons of things which can be more damaging than a naked picture but which are totally fine to post on the internet. Someone can out you as being gay, trash your performance in bed, tell your weird kinks to the world, etc. I would much rather have a stupid naked picture of me on the internet than for my…

She could have said, "Hey, I know you are into weird stuff. It is okay with me if you ejaculate on my face while I'm sleeping."

In for a penny, in for a pound. Why not go for a PhD? Even if you don't want to go all the way, if you complete the course work and then leave 99% of the time they will give you a master's degree as consolation. It is a little disingenuous to do it that way if you really know you don't want to complete the degree,…

If it isn't a professional degree, graduate school is usually free if not a paying job (research or teaching assistantships).

Move to a cheaper city. My girlfriend and I just bought a 5 bedroom house in Baltimore for $170k. Two roommates pay enough rent to cover the mortgage and we live for free!

Mean and average are the same thing. I think you mean median.

Why are you being so aggressive toward me? We are having a discussion about this, I have not made any personal attacks against you. I see your point about this whole thing overshadowing the original debate, and you are right. I feel a little stupid getting so caught up in it and potentially sidetracking the overall…

I am fairly sure that she posted the picture at the same time as she contacted the organizers (it was part of the same tweet).

Yes I would have a problem. I don't think public shaming of anything is appropriate in a professional situation. Problems are not solved by being an asshole back to the person who is offending you.

The majority of attendees at comic conventions are simply fans that are there for fun, but that line of conversation is getting away from the point.

If it was a private message, sure. Unfortunately it was shared with the entire internet.

That's not really this situation at all. You can't have a private conversation in public, especially in close quarters like the conference talk in question. Did you see the pictures? There were easily 5-10 people that could hear any conversation those guys were having, no matter how quiet they were being.

Except this was not a comic convention, it was an industry convention attended by professional developers. It is treated like a workplace. That actually makes the men's behavior even worse, but it means that the way she handled it was decidedly not professional and not acceptable for a person acting in their…

Given that her job was largely to represent the company at events like this, no she did not. The men here were obviously in the wrong, and they should have been removed from the event, maybe even fired. However, she should have contacted the conference representatives and/or company that the offending men worked for…

True.

To be fair, I'm sure they wouldn't have intervened to stop any number of horrible things being done to a passed out guy either. I feel like the problem here is just that they thought they could do anything they wanted and get away with it, regardless of who was getting hurt. You know if they were sticking a pool cue…