Ben Affleck, Robert Downey Jr., young Sean Connery, Idris Elba, Pharrell Williams, John Taylor of Duran Duran.

OK now I got it. Thanks for having pity on my confused brain. :)

Ok y'all got a question here - I'm in the greys but I'm approved for Groupthink. Groupthink approval doesn't carry over to Jezebel? I'm a smart person but I'm still having issues wrapping my brain around how this Kinja stuff works.

I'm baaaack! :)

Play with yourself lots!!! Get a small battery-operated vibe - nothing too overwhelmingly powerful at first, and plenty of lube - a water-based one with no glycerine. Condoms to keep the vibe clean.

Thanks for saying this. I just have started online dating myself and made it to the first date, which seemed to go well, but then he flaked. I freaked at first but now I'm like eh, whatever.

Thanks for the recommendations. Actually I'm 42 and I've had a number of guys that I've met lately ask me if I was a sub. I've wondered myself and started doing a little research and reading but was getting overwhelmed. I don't think I'm cut out to be a 24/7 lifestyle sub, especially since I feel that might come to…

Hell no!! But way to be all judgey there dude. I was looking for a med tterm FWB type thing while getting my feet wet with dating. On a friend level there appeared to be a number of things we had in common and I would have liked to enjoy that with a side of semi-regular sex.

I know that. My original intent was to look for perspective as to how I came across so that if there was something I then felt I messed up I could reassess. Not looking for one guy's insight into an as-yet-nonexistant second guy. geez.

I know I know. I just needed people to give me some straight talk/kick to my ass that reinforces what I know to be true in the back of my mind.

Congrats on the rockin' part. Now to a question since you seem to have some experience here: I suspect I have a rather wide submissive streak and am curious about exploring it. Do you have any book or website recommendations for someone who isn't even a newbie at this yet? Something very beginner friendly and…

Well..... considering how long I've been out of the serious dating pool I was thinking a little insight into his motives could help me tweak my game.

I know, and the thing is I'd be perfectly content with a fwb relationship. I thought I had put that one out on the table but I guess I didn't do a good job of articulating that.

Thank you for the compliment! I'm blushing!

You know, I hadn't thought of it that way at all. Thank you for the enlightenment and the gif high five/hug. The no drama really is a nice thing, I admit.

I know. I just hate the thought of admitting to myself that this happened to me on my first real foray back into dating in a long time. This sucks. But this too shall pass. Thanks for the words of wisdom. :)

Ok ya'll I need some advice here. I took the plunge and joined OKC. A guy who lives like 5 min from me with a decent match % contacted me and we began messaging and texting and it seemed really good to me. I asked him out, he said yes, we were going to meet for early coffee and see what happened. He cancelled about 2…

That is an excellent motto! I like the rhymes.

So it's a deal. We've got our club. Now we need to get TsunamiBlue in with us.

Well we can form our own club!