Dismissed for refusal to argue in good faith.

No, actually, I started out with analogy. Ad hominem would be where I say "You're wrong because you're an idiot." What I said was "These things are common parts of relationships, and you are dismissing them as being 'things that mothers do for children.'" That point doesn't become less valid just because I said "Your…

Only using them to underline the hypocrisy of your argument, my dear troll-lady. Learn how argument works, please.

Flippancy. I was saying that if you really see no distinction, for example, between the way you wash a significant other's back and the way you wash a child, then you may well be washing a child in a sexual way. It was sarcasm.

You may not have figured this out, but I'll clue you in on a little secret: Human beings sometimes use words to mean two different things, depending on context.

Uh... I didn't say you thought that was all mothering was. >.> I said "If you think of all of these things as mothering, then." There's no verb after "Mothering." That's your misreading, I'm afraid. Check my prior post if you don't believe me.

Come up with plans. Be intimate with him in the bath or shower. Surprise him with a meal. Give him something he isn't expecting. Be near him.

Don't pretend the shit you liked as a kid isn't still awesome. That's just pretentious.

>.> Like with all relationship advice, it isn't for everyone.

Are you kidding? That's the part where the conversation dissolves into adorable giggling.

But certainly has had tacos.

I don't really see most of that as "mothering" quite as much as "Occasionally doing nice things for him that remind him you care." I mean, who's to say "Surprise Tacos" isn't the same thing as "A bouquet of flowers and a surprise night of ballroom dancing"?

And if feminists were complaining about not succeeding in romance, rather than not being afforded basic civil rights, maybe that would be hypocritical.

The law does not define rape. Common decency defines rape. If you're hiding behind "The law doesn't exist here, so it's not rape," you're likely a reprehensible person.

Then take it to his blog.

... So... You missed the part of my post wherein I admitted you had a point... Then you also skipped the part where I mentioned the actual, real things that are being said to women... And then you decided to be condescending about it.

Okay, see, no. Dude. Nobody is saying "Women are incapable of doing wrong." We are saying "There is a societal pressure telling women that they are worthless unless perfectly chaste, prudes if they aren't being sexualized, and that it's their fault for being too sexy/too loose/too immoral if they get raped."

There's a difference- A fundamental difference- between leaving your keys in the ignition of your car, and NOT doing any of the myriad things idiot men say women are doing to invite rape.

I don't want to read through all these responses. Can someone tell me roughly what percentage of the responses are pearlclutching morons going on about how swearing "is lazy" or "is immature" or any other bullshit "i-am-better-than-you-if-you-swear" argument?