You know, I really think she has. I can totally see it being this one-sided relationship, where he's all into himself, and she's like, yeah, you're pretty, but where is your passion and he never understands why he's not enough for her...

Right! I want to sit on this gif!

If sharing is caring, I'd like to give you all this. I've recently begun hanging out with a fantastic, marginally insane older artist lady. Half of what she says should be taken with a grain of salt- the other half is always amazing, like comparing the whiskey she's drinking to Artaud. A few months ago, she…

Is it just me, or is Robert DeNiro morphing into my father? Is he morphing into ALL our fathers? He is, isn't he.

Tabby Driver?

Well, it depends on the school. My HS had an absolutely worthless football team during my time there. Basketball was once strong, but waning. So you know who the rock-star level jocks were? The golf team. Those shits could do no wrong- all issues from cheating to vandalism to hard-core bullying were swept under…

All of what everyone else has said, but also- the cult of Hero Worship. Athlete X is the hero, so everything he does is automatically awesome, because he's the hero. The concept that Athlete X is, by default, good is so engrained in their world view, it is not questioned. And they are good because their hero is…

Ugh. This seems to be more to the point. These people don't think of it as rape at all- they think they have to protect their boys from the girls that were totally asking for it, but now changed their mind or just want some attention or couldn't handle what she started. It's the "some girls rape so easy" mentality,…

And thanks for letting me clarify after I mis-understood you. Man, it's easy to mis-read tone on the internet!

Oh, I don't disagree that if this were clear-cut, it wouldn't be a Supreme Court case. But in my opinion (I'm not the judge, so it's just my opinion) the problem all stems back to the bio-father's actions. He gave up his rights. All things proceeded legally from there- the bio mother tried repeatedly to confirm him…

Ugh- sorry. It read to me that you were actually accusing me of claiming Native heritage and culture were meaningless, not asking me. And by "your own damage," I was trying to say that (given my interpretation that you were accusing me) you were over-reacting and reading things into my post that weren't there.

"Do you really think that Native heritage and culture is meaningless?"

Oh! I didn't mean to imply that it automatically proved he was a bad parent, only that it didn't prove anything either way. To pick up your analogy, the people arguing against a woman's right to an abortion or against desegregation are also part & parcel of a case being taken to the supreme court. They fought just…

Peace offering... we're just coming at this from two very different perspectives.

Thank you for responding with useful info. The more I read about this case, the more I'm wondering if the order of things matter- does is matter at all that the adoption was proceeding normally and lawfully, but now the ICWA is being applied retroactively, basically rendering a legal adoption illegal in retrospect? …

You are not seriously arguing that removing a child from her parents home at the age of two to be raised by someone who is essentially a stranger did no damage because this picture exists, are you?

Well then that's shitty. And I if it was as clear as THE LAW WAS VIOLATED. THE ADOPTION IS NOT VALID SHOUTY SHOUTY SHOUTY this would not be up for debate and you wouldn't have written an entire piece about it.

What I'm saying... and what a lot of people are saying... is that it doesn't seem like the Capobiancos' violated a Federal law. Dusten Brown seems to have set a legal process in place under one set of laws (he legally terminated his rights) and the Capobianco's proceeded accordingly. Dusten Brown is now using…

From my understanding (and this may not be correct... I'm reading a lot about this and some stories are contradictory) the Capobiancos didn't break a federal rule. There was some shoddy paperwork that seems to track back to an honest mistake made by the birth mother (she tried to verify the birth father's tribal…

"Well, dude has fought all the way up to the Supreme Court to keep his kid. The kid has lived with him for almost a year without incident (that I know of). Is that not enough for you?"