Y'all need to check your extrovert privilege! But seriously, introverts that do not specifically have jobs that prevent them from talking to a lot of people during the day have to deal with socialization. Literally any socialization is going to take away energy. It's stimuli, and to someone like me who is very…

See, here's where your logic dies. All of this could be solved if teh wimminz just didn't have sex until they're married, duh! All these women totally deserve all of this because they're all whores, and only The Good Women never ever have sex until God says it's okay to. And then, once they're fully shamed into…

My boyfriend is kind of? like that? Maybe? He's kind of a freak when it comes to housework and gender roles. Like his family is traditional, his father is the head of the household, and as such his father makes all the decisions and things. As such my boyfriend had the inclination that he would be the head of…

Yeah, and that's the problem. I don't think there will be any less grey area because you can never know what someone might be hurt by. And yes, I do think that wording can be used as a criteria. I think that you don't have to put a "I don't want to offend you" at all, just until someone voices their hurt. But I mean…

My boyfriend and I found out that he and I can wear the same size pants (mostly) because our waist/hip sizes are about the same. I made him put on one of my larger tank tops while wearing the largest pair of jeans I had, and I put on his smallest pair of jeans and a random shirt. I asked if we could go out in public…

It is subjective, but I do think of it as the part of the author to reword things better if it comes off as an attack. It drives me crazy when someone says "well just stop being offended" because it doesn't argue or communicate their point better. Most of the time I find an apology along the lines of "I didn't mean to…

And it is the attitude that they just need to accept it is what is so particularly harmful.

I am not, no. I am born female, I identify as woman. But I didn't always feel that way, particularly when I was a very young child. But I still remember what that was like.

And that does not work for people who are trans. While I may now identify with my body, it was not something consciously chosen. It happened.…

Ah, thank you. I appreciate that. I agree, those things are not present in that gif. It's not problematic.

Though if he started following her and saying creepy shit to her, then yeah I'd have a problem.

I'm saying you're hurtful and ignorant because you are. Calling something silly is not "calling it out like it is" and is completely wrong. And for a trans writer, to see that, would be very damaging to them. My own gender and sex didn't match at one point. I'm not just being petty. I've been hurt. And I'm speaking…

Yeah, you're transphobic. If you call all this silly, then you're being willfully ignorant and extremely hurtful. Just know that.

I was talking about his last paragraph specifically, unfortunately I'm not aware of what this gif is? Was it on Kotaku?

Follow the gender. Not the sex. It's disrespectful and transphobic otherwise. She may have been born biologically male, but the identity is more important. It doesn't change the sex, no, but that can be made to follow the gender.

Don't confuse gender and sex.

The issue is not if you find a woman physically attractive. The problem is when it becomes an expectation that she must be physically attractive, or if you don't respect her as a person with her own thoughts and feelings, including those in reaction to your attraction to her. If she caught you staring at her and said…

Well it stops discussion too. When someone comes in and makes a dumb comment, it derails a discussion.

I think that is a valid point to make. Pointing out that hey, there are some problematic things associated with certain cultures (like say, religion and homophobia), is okay. That's constructive criticism. But saying something like "UR IMAGINARY SKY GOD MAKES YOU DUMB DUMB" isn't really productive. I'm…

Oh, I know your pain, both literal and figurative. Potholes are terrible, and I live in the Northeast, where they get worse every year. Any time a smaller chested lady bemoans the fact that their boobs aren't bigger, I wholly encourage them to enjoy what they have, because 1) it's their body and it's fine the way it…

You know, I thought we would have at least some benefit to large breasts, but apparently they don't exist! All we have are down sides... I will forever fight against my arch nemesis, Stairs.

I had a similar experience, I was about 13 I think. My parents had been hosting some family friends and they had a deaf son just a little younger than me. We were all at a nighttime 4th of July party. I found the pool and jumped in, because I was a fish and loved to swim. The deaf son jumped in too, and I immediately…

Thank you, I appreciate that. You have been a good discussion "opponent" as well. :D

I typically find that giving people the benefit of the doubt, finding common ground and using compassion first generally works in my favor, or at least lets the discussion be thoughtful and civilized. I consider that a benefit anyway.…