The driver had no insurance. Which is another outrage, because that’s another state law broken, but the cops were like, yeah, whatever, and it’s not right that this too has no consequence. Also, my cat just threw up her breakfast on my purse.

I feel that Kara is behind my being perma-gray, so this is validating to read.

It’s like these guys go to board meetings to learn all the same tactics of controlling behavior. The night I finally left, my ex did the suicide thing. He said maybe he did really need a therapist (which he’d been going to because it was a condition of our staying together. I found out in court that therapist knew…

OT: All I know is, I’m glad Kara Brown is off the masthead. She had very thin skin and could be very vindictive to commenters (both here and on Twitter). At least once, she took major offense to a perceived slight, and proceeded to burn and ban several commenters on a post she didn’t even write.

Omg im so sorry. Same.

My ex would insist he wasn’t cheating over and over until he’d finally confess. And we did this repeatedly. Like, I KNEW, every time, he was completely shit at hiding his affairs. But he’d still do it.

I had an ex who pulled similar stunts. He would pick fights about bullshit like what I cooked for dinner (listen asswipe—you’re lucky I’m making dinner for you!). I figured out that he was instigating in order to get me to break up with him so he didn’t have to be the bad guy. Not saying that this is the case in your…

I don’t get that. When I was the victim of a hit and run, after he was found he was responsible for my repairs. And he lived in another state which meant that, for some reason, the particulars were difficult to manage. Nothing punitive which is too bad, because the kid was High AF.

File in small claims court. If you win, you can garnish his wages or seize and sell his property. I don’t know what state you live in, but in mine, the small claims process was designed to be cheap and easy to navigate.

Two situations come to mind:

Three years ago, Pinkham asked me out after he found out I lived a few miles away. But he did it in that Nice Guy (tm) way such that if I said yes, he was serious about it, but if I said no, he’d say, “I wasn’t even asking you out! Ugh! You think so highly of yourself that I’d be into you, bitch? GROSS!”

Actually, a lot of the times abusers say that their partners are “poorly dressed” and “ugly” to make them think that they cannot leave or find someone better. It’s not necessary because they aren’t attracted. I’m sorry this is happening to you :( I hope that you make a decision that is the healthiest for yourself.

Good to know. I’m looking for some variety and less time spent planning means. I don’t mind that they aren’t fast cooking. I’m hoping to take a break from planning and maybe discover some new recipes.

If I had to guess, I think the problem is what do we do with men who ingratiate themselves into feminist movements only to turn out to be quite the opposite because these guys are using the movement to work out whatever issues they clearly have with women.

Nine days after my ex and I got engaged I suddenly worked too much, didn’t spend enough time with him and didn’t clean enough. It was out of the blue. I had a major career-starting project due a month later and all kinds of other things on my plate. He supposedly had ADD and I was trying to make sure there wasn’t a…

Anyone tried hello fresh or blue apron and have an opinion to share?

I have somehow managed to get myself romantically involved with someone... weeks before I move out of state. Everything about it feels like a stupid choice. At the moment, I’m staying at his house, watching his dogs while he’s out of town for a few days, and we’re both completely ignoring the fact that I won’t be here…

Longtime lurker, first time poster.

If you want to understand the background of all this google Elisa Izquierdo and Nixzmary Brown.

Its kind of coincidental that this is posted today when yesterday Jezebel posted an article about the parents who sold their daughters to a disgusting man to make them his “wife,” and rape and abuse them. And at the end of the article, it said that the parents could potentially get their kids back. WHAAAAAAAAAAAT? Get…