I originally misread this as “In Defense of Chili.” I am admittedly slightly disappointed.

I am so glad I get to date my wife and not have to figure out this whole thing all over again.

to rack up matches which function as empty trophies on your e-living room mantle. “Look how many people would almost definitely not throw me out of bed!” #value

POF??! There is a god.

Yay and happy birthday and this gives me hope!

That’s always what I thought it was. A guy calls you “chill” but it really means “I don’t think you’ll ever call me out on my bullshit.”

Thanks for the heads up, doc.

I have a timeline. A few exchanges on the site, if all seems well, exchanges numbers for a PHONE CALL, talk a few times and arrange a date. In that order. I had one dude who wanted to text all the time. It went on for like almost three months. I finally just stopped talking to him. Like, I get everyone is busy and has…

To a certain type of guy, “chill” is the opposite of “crazy,” where “crazy” = “feelings and demands I don’t want you to have because they require me to contemplate you as a person with your own thoughts and desires.”

Exactly. I am Team Massey on this one. Yeah, guys want it "slow and casual," except w/r/t sex, right? I learned my lesson about this kind of thing wayyyyyy later than most women. If you play it cool long enough, eventually he will realize he reciprocates your feelings/investment! BZZT, wrong. The last time he told me…

When I was young and naïve and neurotic, I was so completely unchill and my fragile self got hurt a lot because of it. Now I feel like I've swung so far in the other direction as a means of protection, but it's not like being chill means you're invulnerable. It just means you bottle that shit up and hide it away. The…

I have so many feelings about this.

I just came here to have a chill time and honestly I am feeling so attacked right now.

I was told I was a “chill lady” by the dude I went out on a date with a few days ago.

There’s a reason they latch on to the Rolling Stone story like a dog with a bone and just sort of glaze over and wander off if you talk about rape and sa reports that haven’t been discredited.

Right, because those guys would have believed in rape culture if Rolling Stone hadn’t been discredit. Some of the creepiest people are the ones who deny rape and rape culture are a problem. Because the only motivation to dismiss rape culture, is that they are hiding something about themselves or someone they know.

And, with that, I’m impressed any woman EVER goes to the authorities. Why? So she can get humiliated? I’ve know many, many women who have been raped. I don’t know a single one who has ever gone to the cops about it. I certainly haven’t (and I’m not sorry).

Hear, hear! However, let’s take this one step further. I would go so far to say that WOMEN are a myth. I mean, I’m not a woman. Therefore, are there women? I find this so called “women exist” narrative just doesn’t hold water.

I’m sure if the Rolling Story hadn’t been discredited all these tools would completely believe in rape culture, right?