You can certainly dress for the cold, but for me it’s the length of Montreal winters that got me down. It felt like the gray slush phase lasted FOREVER. But you are right that Montreal summers are suffocatingly humid. I don’t miss those either.

True, but the weather is milder. I do not recommend Montreal winters.

Also without Black Jack, she never meets Frank. Without Frank, she wouldn’t have been in Scotland on her second honeymoon meaning she wouldn’t have met Jaime.

First off, I’m really sorry you had your heartbroken. It sucks to lose not only your partner, but the future you saw with that person. However, I’m not sure that it is entirely fair to criticize fondu process for not mentioning her ex’s feelings in her post. I’ve been her. I know it was tough for my ex, but it was…

Smartset, Jacob, why did you leave me?

From what I understand, you save money by avoiding impulse purchases. There’s less temptation to incorporate random new pieces to your wardrobe (like that random top you bought on sale but never wear) since you are going with a one-in, one-out mentality, and it needs to fit with your current pieces.

I’m sorry you went through that, too. I also was regaled with a lot of relationship/personal information that I should NOT have been privy to. I think part of the reason I resent her so much was that she let people treat her (and me) like such crap but never took any responsibility.

Every mother’s day, I read stories about people who have severed their relationships with their mothers. I think these are important stories to tell. There is a lot of stigma against children who do not “value” their parents so reading stories like this reassure children that self-protection is justified. We aren’t…

Agreed. I think another good thing to do is look around your life for examples of parenting you would like to emulate. I think part of the reason destructive patterns get past on is because children of toxic parents don’t know a better way to respond to their kids. For me anyways, it wasn’t enough to know what not to…

I’m an only child, too and had this same dynamic. My mother would need me with this frightening intensity one day and then disappear into her new relationship the next. I still remember her mourning a past relationship (with the love of her life!) over a bottle of wine and blaming me for the guy bailing. He’d told her…

Exactly! Sometimes, whatever the optics, you don't know the truth.
Case in point, I saw my ex at a friend's wedding awhile ago, and he "forgave me" for cheating on him while we were together. He also blamed our break up entirely on my fiance. I explained to him that he was wrong, nothing EVER happened (we were just…

I'm sorry for your losses. It can be tough. I try to stay positive, but some times are harder than others. Like when my very pregnant co-worker, with a two year old at home, told me I was lucky to be child-free and that she envied me. When she walked out of the washroom, I went to a stall and cried. I don't blame her,…

I'm sorry for your losses.

Yes!!! Legal assistant here. When I started working in my field, lawyers would often ask "So what do you plan to do after this? Go back to school? Become a lawyer?" They honestly couldn't understand that THIS was the plan. I got so fed up of trying to be polite about it. Is it really so unreasonable that I don't want…

Mommyish has a few suggestions:
I know the economy sucks and so many people out there are doing what they can to get by and that it’s not like any of us have piles of money lying around but I am asking you all to , if you can, buy some baby formula to drop off at your local food bank. Leave grocery gift cards, whatever…

Agreed. I cut my abusive ex out of my life for 4 years. Then I realized that I didn't have any closure and that I was still hurt by what happened so I opened the lines of communication. It was one email a week where the only topic was our shared past. I know it sounds like a bad idea, but by year 4 no one else wanted…

One of the things that really resonated with me in the reading I've done since my abusive relationship ended was that most abusers have their own definition of abuse. Get a group of abusers together, and they will call each other out. Those who hit with an open hand might condemn those who use a fist. Same with those…