It’s two-sided. Reality is most men in this culture are expecting and looking for that fantasy. Because they don’t see the woman as a person, AT ALL. They see a myth, a pedestal, a wholly unrealistic idea.

look at these descriptions of marriage, and I’m just dumbfounded.

So much of this “sex on demand” is wrapped up in the idea that the husband represents a proxy for Jesus/God in the relationship.

Set aside, for a moment, most non-Christian and many Christians’, visceral reaction to that read.

Many evangelical men lean their identity into that. But only in the most dark and twisted way.

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Gah did anyone else mired in this have the friends that stuck to anal to preserve their “purity?” Not to pass too much negative judgement on anal, but when 15 year olds are rationozing sex acts that way you have to think something is awry with the system and potential end results. I always wonder how those kids fared…

I’m starting to think that Paul was a prick.

Even beyond the way that evangelical theology privileges the male in the relationship, there’s a fundamental assumption within that community (which is not unique to that community) that only men want sex, only men need sex, and only men truly enjoy sex. With that as a backdrop, of course they tell the woman to lay…

ironically these men deny women their marital rights all the time...when are people going to stop participating in stuff where women get the short end of the stick

Evangelical “purity” culture just amplifies the bigger cultural message that refusing sex is a failure in a marriage and that solving it just requires having sex more. Anytime my partner or I have struggled with sex it is due to something completely unrelated to our desire for physical intimacy and relates to much…

I’m going back and forth between being furious and feeling sick to my stomach.

“it’s all in the past”

I just took HIPAA to mean, that if I worked with anyone’s medical history as part of my employment, I kept my mouth shut about anyone’s records or visits or anything.

I know this is a separate issue, but I’d really like to know why men like Charlie Sheen or Sean Penn or Robert Downey Junior never got a conservatorship when they were acting erratically and unhinged.

Well, not that shocked.

It’s sad to think that this company, knowing full well that climate change was real back in the 60’s, could have been on the forefront of renewable energy given their resources. Yes, we needed petroleum based products as our industrial revolution moved forward, but they had every resource available to be pioneers in…

Peloton’s New Tread+ Problem Is a Reminder That You Don’t Really Own Your Connected Gadgets

Excuse me, but why exactly do people buy these “connected” things? One can buy a pretty damn good treadmill for about $1500 and place it in front of a damn good 4k TV for $300 and have a similar experience.

So should I get the bluetooth enable pacemaker or the classic version?

I’m just going to put it on the “for the youth” pile and move on with my life.

On the one hand, I hate white artists misappropriating and/or straight-up stealing from Black artists.

I have a horror story from when I used to be a nurse. I hired on at a small town doc’s office. Single doc, me as the nurse, plus a receptionist/manager/med records gal.