I think it starts out at the first, and naturally leads to the second. Or vice versa. There's room for both, I guess.

I knew a Xenia once, but she was from Panama, so I don't know if it's the same name in Spanish or what.

I had a male boss make a comment about my lack of makeup one time, my reply was, "You first," and that seemed to be the end of it.

I was speaking of the region in general. I'm a fan of Hope Mills for a lot of reasons, but the larger area is not a shining beacon of civilization and wealth.

I think, the thing that is missing from that for most people, is the understanding that this area is very poor with a side of military base thrown in, all with a lot of crime, drugs, and violence, and so ... yeah, there are probably some people that everyone expects to end up badly.

I was wondering if this story would show up here... Up until just a few days ago, the community kinda thought this was one of those "maybe she ran off, maybe she was abducted, maybe she was set upon by gypsies" sort of mysteries. Then a body shows up, and suddenly the news is out that the ex has confessed (though…

Well, cheer up, the rate of vigilante-type justice is pretty high in this neck of the woods, so that could always happen. This is the only place I've ever lived where law enforcement describes the systematic cycle of escalating violence between people "feuding" like it's the fucking Hatfields and McCoys. True story.…

So, honest question for all the "no screens under 2" crowd ... how the hell do parents watch any tv during that time? I can see not using the tv as a babysitter, but I cannot see keeping the tv off any time the baby is awake and I want to watch it while they are otherwise engaged. Someone, please explain how that…

The huge joke here is that most of the people doing all sorts of work for this story, you know, journalists, are in an industry which has traditionally been just as bad as far as paying people for their work. It's completely normal for reporters (usually not salaried) to work off the clock because, hey, you have to…

QUE LINDO!!! (but with better punctuation)

Word. One of the house rules growing up was that the dogs ate first. Why? Because they couldn't feed themselves, and it was mean and stupid to eat during one of their two meal times while they had to watch hungry. Of course, the little beggars acted like they hadn't eaten in months regardless, but the idea was good.

To paraphrase their signs...

Thank you for this strategy. I cannot wait to be able to use it.

Yeah, censored Count! I was hoping someone would go there.

Or, you know, in a back alley or something... maybe?

Stand on it, or by it, call her to it, pet her, make nice, then kinda gently put her head to the object, and if she engages, you know the drill. I think the thing with most dogs is that they can't connect the anger/punishment with the crime unless it's IMMEDIATE. So, sometimes, you have to help them recreate the crime…

So, honest question, no trolling, what do the no-spank people do when they have children that are past the point of babies, but not yet to the point of development to be able to understand consequences/language more immediate/complicated/attention-grabbing than a smack? From my clearly non-professional observation, it…

This is gonna sound cruel to some people, and if it doesn't work after the one time, it's probably not going to work for this dog, but ... consider something like offering the dog something that it's torn up, and then hitting it and yelling NO when it tries to take it. Immediately offer it something that it's ok to…

Yes! Also, now I wish I hadn't just made a post that basically says the same thing. Oh well.

Anyone else read "Management Ring" at first? I did, and I thought, yeah, good idea, you get to a position of power, and then wear some pimptastic ring. Like the Superbowl or whatever.