The problem here is not anyone's perceived inability to tell women that they shouldn't go back a second time. The reason that is not the problem is because the victim herself SAID she didn't want to go back. She already didn't want to go back. So it's perfectly clear that no one needs to tell her (or any woman) that…

I'm glad you're focusing on the important part of this story.

Yes, you're repeating yourself and never answering my questions. The reason you're not answering my questions because deep down you know that what happened to you was abusive and wrong, and in order to not go insane, you had to view it as your choice and what you wanted and that it didn't hurt you at all in any way. …

The maximum punishment in Indonesia for *public* masturbation (not any masturbation, as you stated) is 32 months in prison, not decapitation. http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/b…

"Here's a question for you: At what age did you feel ready to consent? At what age did you know you were ready for sure? Was there a clear line for you?"

It makes sense that you're not attracted to people that young, don't you agree, because 14 year olds are not sexy. You look at a 14 year old, and there's nothing sexy about them, even when they're all dressed up. They're kids. You might think that they are beautiful, precious, adorable, darling... but not sexy. So…

You don't mention how old you are now, but I am wondering if you, yourself, have sex with 13 and 14 year olds nowadays. And if not, why not? In another thread on Jezebel, the one about "What's the Weirdest Thing You've Ever Done To Get Laid" you described an experience when you were 13 and bullied into giving a kid…

You don't understand the difference between development and change. Your legs change throughout your life too, but we don't say that your legs never stop developing. Development is "to cause to progress from an embryonic to an adult form." The brain doesn't full develop into its adult form until age 25. That's a…

I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you. That teacher was really fucked up and wrong, and you didn't do anything to deserve it. Just like there is nothing a teen could do that would make you or me have sex with them, there's nothing you could have done - NOTHING - that makes any part of what happened your fault. …

Well, you DO know that he doesn't call every single black person nigger every single time he meets them, or we would have thousands of incidents on tape. What I am saying is that word choice is dependent on the context a person is in. Just because a woman calls her friend "bitch" affectionately doesn't mean that 20…

For sure. :)

Does Barack Obama call every black person nigger?

If you're a member of the group who has the most power, which is white, upper class men, and you want to use your privilege and power to support the abolition of an uncool thing that members of society do to women, being called bitches is not at the top of that list. What is at the top of that list? Maybe being paid…

In further fairness, late adolescence/early adulthood is the time when a lot of mental disorders first pop up and/or get much worse, quickly. I went to a crappy school in a tiny Minnesota town 20 years ago and a lot of students had drug and alcohol problems or other mental disorders and killed themselves. It's just…

Agreed! Even sociopaths can control their urge to kill people, they lie in wait for long periods of time, waiting until they find a target and a time and place where they can murder someone and will be unlikely to be caught. They don't just impulsively murder everyone they see. It's a choice!

The definition of the word impulse is a feeling, an inclination, an urge, not a command that must inevitably be followed. Maybe you're thinking of the word compulsion, which means a strong, usually irresistible impulse to perform an act, especially one that is irrational or contrary to one's will. Alcoholics are…

Thoughts, impulses and desires are spontaneously generated by the brain, but they can also be weakened or strengthened by cognitive therapy. Due to plasticity, or the brain's ability to change, the more you think a certain thought, the stronger the neural pathway for that thought becomes, and the less you think a…

Thank you for writing this.

I have a to do list, AND a "have done" list. Because I do a ton of stuff without even realizing I'm doing it, and feel like I have accomplished nothing at the end of the day. But if I keep a "have done" list, I can prove to myself and others that I actually worked my ass off all day.

Some Americans like fried eggs where the whites are fully cooked, but the yolks are still runny. We have pasteurized eggs, so you can eat them like that (or eat cookie dough) and not get salmonella.