I am pro-abortion. I had a very wanted pregnancy with a really traumatizing labour. Kid was ok, but it's taken me 9 months to enjoy him, love him, etc. I've always been pro-choice, but after going through my labour I'm ready to rip the balls off of anyone who thinks they should be able to force a woman to carry to…

I generally also think there's waaaay too much stuff out there, and most of it is just an industry's way of separating us from our money. And I moved overseas (and knew I would) when baby was 3 months old, so I also wanted to keep things down to a minimum. Which is why I never seem to have enough clothes or toys for…

My secret shame is reading the Daily Mail online with regularity, and they have had way more front page-linked articles on Saville than on this sex trafficking ring. It's not a publication I respect in any way, shape, or form, but you're wrong to suggest that they focus on South Asian men's sex offences. They've…

It happened in the Oxford area. Not necessarily at the university. (At least, I haven't read anything to that end.)

Wait, you watched that video and what you got out of it is that Tina Fey doesn't like people who protest against tyranny? Really? Did your link by any chance point somewhere else?

Comedy done by most people is, indeed, pretty horrific.

Yeeeeees, omigod, yes. Was in a boring mall sushi restaurant over the holidays, and two girls near me ordered something off the lunch menu. Seriously, there was a salmon special and a handroll combo. The presentation was nice, in a mall sushi restaurant kind of nice — nothing noteworthy. Without a word, both got their…

EC, you're right, I'm ignoring them because I just don't know any. I know women who went out and pretty much stayed out, or stayed in a sort of flexible, part time occupation but did not go back to their former job. The failure of imagination on my part that you're noticing is due to the fact that I've only known the…

I find it sad too. But we also need to teach people how to not get their shit stolen, how to not go places where they're likely to be held up, and how, if they are held up, they should not get killed. (Or at least I need to teach my husband these things, who thinks that he's safe at all times, in all places.) When my…

Well, if it helps at all, watching my parents' struggles with their mortgage (not nearly as huge as what you describe) is part of what's put me off the whole thing. Especially since I think there's a tendency in house buyers to buy much more space than they really need, which comes with additional costs. I'll buy when…

I think the other replies you got are dumb. Unfortunately, I think it's also a little naive to think girls don't need to be taught about rape prevention. Yes, the blame is on the man. But there are certain situations that put women (and men, I guess) at heightened risk, and it's dumb not to teach your child how to…

Keep saying this. Though I think a lot of women really do not want to hear it. Everyone wants to think their marriage will always be perfect, but statistically, that's so not the case.

My parents were often in that situation — my dad made more money, but my mom could keep things afloat between his contracts on her own, lower salary. Huge difference between earning less and not earning anything. The thing is, when she wanted a divorce at 50-something years of age, she was able to leave right out. She…

Nah, that's no fiscal reality. That's fantasy. She might be contributing to a personal retirement plan for herself, though quite possibly not. If she doesn't go back to the workforce she'll lose all the money she would have earned in those years when the kids really didn't need her at home full time, which obvs isn't…

Really, the only thing I assumed is that what you do isn't monetized. That's where the problem is. Maybe it would help if I added that I think it should be, and that I'm currently in a similar, but reversed, situation. (Husband still working on his degree, my salary's paying for most everything.) But even though…

Word. I have a, um, similar educational background, and doing a PhD — heck, even the all-so-difficult tenure track — is a freakin' walk in the park with cotton candy compared with full-time infant care. Every day that I get to go to the office is like a special gift. Where does the poster get her ideas? Not from any…

This is all great until one of you wants a divorce, or until he gets sick, laid off, fired, dead. I hope none of these ever happen to you, but the fact is, you're doing ridiculously difficult work (IMO, I think full-time childcare is insanely hard, at least for me) with no financial security. I don't ever want to be…

No, I'm with you. Obesity and nutrition are actually extremely important issues, but they're low-prestige, low-power, feminine-gendered stuff. It would have been nice to see MO take on something both important and high prestige.

You seem to have confused me with someone else. I would be the last person to say it was "selfish" to wait to have kids, or to not have kids at all. So I don't know where you have that from. But "LOL it's totally easy to get pregnant in your 40's" is bad advice, at least if it's directed towards anyone who knows they…