It would be great if you could tell that to all the women I know who had a heartbreaking time trying to conceive in their 30's and 40's, and never did. But I'm sure they'll be relieved by the knowledge that "most" women do just fine.

Hey, I'm not for treating people cruelly. Doing so is not simplistic, but evil. But I'm also not for assigning guilt in a way that ignores multiple causality, as you suggested should happened — "you are liable for the extreme consequences." No. There's such a thing as personal responsibility too. Saldanha wasn't a…

Thank you for this reasonable comment.

Yeah. It's a kind of "I am hurting and therefore sensitive, and if you do not agree with my knee-jerk emotional reaction you are a terrible human being with no soul" position.

So, what if Saldanha was beaten regularly by her loving husband? Prank call happens, it all becomes too much, maybe she's scared of how her husband will react, she commits suicide. The DJs are still the ones "responsible"? Or what if there are ten other reasons in her life, all equally as terrible, for why she already…

I don't enjoy the humiliation of strangers. I've never listened to that radio station — well, except for the prank call, I'll admit to that. But I have no stake in keeping that kind of thing in the public sphere. I'm not desperate to absolve anyone. But I find it ridiculous to assume you can know whom to blame for…

Well, I'm guessing there are people who just send death threats to all sorts of folks in the public eye. What gets me is the — well, I hate using this word, but the hysterical outrage here on Jezebel. I get it, bullying is bad, dumb pranks are dumb, but the number of posters who thought that you could just blame the…

Oh yeah — they were. Absolutely. But it doesn't make *me* a cruel bully to think that they still don't deserve the death threats.

Absolutely. We should also continue to call anyone a cruel, unsympathetic bully who didn't think that that dumb prank could explain the suicide.

My mom made me buy a box of formula when my kid was about 6 wks. I returned it unopened at 3 mos, rather proud of myself for resisting the siren call. At 4 or 5 (I'm not sure anymore) I started supplementing with formula. Realised my mom had been right. I could have gotten some fucking sleep.

Dude. Yes, breastfeeding is best for baby. But not by that much. It won't destroy your baby's life if you give her formula. You know what else is good for her? A happy mom. And in the long run, having a relaxed, happy mother will do much more for her than the tiny advantage from nursing. So many things this year will…

Usually I can't stand that "no one makes you read this" approach, but honestly, in this case, the post headline is "Fuck you, breastfeeding." Why would anyone expect not to to be offended at all? The clue is in the title!

We agree on that, but that advice is not always so easy to take. I think Tracie's over the top approach might reach some people you don't. I'm no wild Tracie fan, but this post did speak to me — as someone who breastfed and bitched about it.

I'm glad you were fully in command of your reason in the year after giving birth. Some of us are not. We might be highly intelligent, with the jobs and the pieces of paper to prove it, we might have no problem sticking up for ourselves in any other context in life, but when we get the cocktail of postpartum hormones,…

Except I'm sure that Hitler, as a health-conscious vegetarian, would have breastfed his kids too.

I had a hard time too until I fixed the latch. I can't tell if I should feel really bad about your breastfeeding experience or incredibly jealous of your labour. Because for me the two were like the difference between stubbing my toe and having my leg cut off.

Ah, I do have two to add:

So... by implication, you DO fault women who have an easy time breastfeeding but stop anyway?

Yes, yes, and yes! It also begs the question of why it should be Tracie's responsibility to somehow promote breastfeeding, especially given the fact that she had a miserable experience with it. Like we all have to toe the bfeeding line, because there's just this tiny chance it might be better for our kid when you…

Same here. I think that's what some of the negative comments on this post don't understand — an intelligent woman might do this thing that makes her miserable for much longer than she wants to, because of societal pressure and the suggestion that she would be a shitty mother if she did otherwise.