Because I was yelling, and he was calm. And because the bartender was not a court, just some dude not wanting shit going down on his shift. And because patriarchy.

I like to think though that even if he ‘got away with it’ he will live with a paranoia that former students will publicly shame him forever.

There was a teacher at my high school who slept with a student I was in the same social circle as. Years later she talked about it a little bit, because it was basically common knowledge. I ran into that teacher VERY drunk at a bar one night, he was actually performing karaoke when we walked in. Something about his…

Consider packing a hair straightener instead - they usually work better with adapters and you can wash your hair at night then straighten in the morning if you need. They also are usually smaller/sleeker so easier to nestle into a bag!

This is me at the shop in my chosen dress. Happy ending indeed - my face, which was make-up free and puffy from crying for like 3 hours straight the night before, has this sort of crazy-happy expression when I realized 'this is literally the best outcome ever and I get to wear this amazing GOWN!'.

Actually after the wedding I wrote her a bad yelp review and a few days later got an email from a former employee of hers. The woman said that the shop took on too many clients for their size but the owner would just insist they work faster. After a few issues like mine, where clients had problems with size or fit or…

My wedding dress, which I had made, straight up did not fit. The woman who made it cut it about 2 sizes to small after the final fitting (I tend to remember her saying it needed to be taken in about an inch, then she scribbled down some notes and when the dress arrived it was suddenly tiny!). The zipper popped off as…

Hurrmmmmmm. I don't even think wedding gifts should be a requirement, so when couples ask for cash towards trips or getting a house or 'to start our lives together' it kinds weirds me out. I guess because when you straight-up ask for money from your guests it shows that couples now expect to be paid for getting…

Times when 'ethnic' is good, useful shorthand:

1. "Hi, I am looking for a stylist who can do ethnic hair"
2. "I don't second-date anyone who won't eat ethnic food"

Thank you and will do!!

Thank you so much! This is the most info I have heard yet, and the discomfort factor sounds more manageable than I pictured. I will be looking to start sessions in about 2 months and this conversation has really given me a lot more confidence about it. One of my main concerns was that the process would not be very…

Okay this actually gives me a good idea of the overall cost, because it's one tattoo specifically I want gone (yay 18-year-old me) and it's multi-colored, but not huge, I might get away with spending just under $1000. But I want to see my skin emerge!

Hahaha. Be careful, I am the overly-ambitious matchmaker friend. And I wanna get her a green card SO BAD.

Uh, this thread makes me want to get matching tattoos with my husband... But before I get another tattoo I want to get my first one removed. Has anyone done that, any advice? I was thinking I'd start the process next year and I heard it's around $100/session, usually taking quite a few sessions....

I would love to see that! I live in Oakland and there are some super stylish lesbians here. My bff visited me, she dresses very modern and slightly genderless - lots of collared shirts with slim trousers and crew-neck tee shirts - and she was so into the variety of 'gay girl' style that I actually took her to Sephora…

I have two cats. One who is like that, and one who will eat almost anything crunchy, including chips, cheetos, wasabi peas, kale crisps, uncooked top ramen....

However the cat that only likes cat food will go crazy for boiled chicken.

So about 2 weeks ago I was getting wine-drunk with my childhood bff who was visiting, and somehow we decided we needed to re-watch Cruel Intentions. As it turns out Cruel Intentions features the least developed romantic plot of all time, and very mixed messages about consent. I will summarize it for those of you who…

I got their Christian sex book for... research purposes... and it claims oral sex is against God's plans.

So you know how some days your cat is really sweet and affectionate, then for no reason she bites the crap our of your hand and storms off? Or just get's this crazy look and pounces on your foot while you walk to the bathroom, then tears off down the hall like a maniac? I mean, doesn't a big cat behave similarly, but…

I should send one in - I have oily skin but horrible dry patches.

Mario Badescu makes great products for oily skin. I find that moisturising like crazy at night keeps it at bay during the day as well, but I still need an 11.00 and 3.00 blot-session! I use Yes for Carrots during the day, mostly rubbing it into dry…

I just want to tell you good luck! (and not in a sarcastic way, like genuinely good job and good luck). I worked for 10 years as a nanny for a number of families, about 1/10 kids, when they are toddlers, develop into kids who don't really react to punishment. They are usually very smart kids, a little more on the…