No, Dear. You didn't. As women of color, we'd wish that we could be another's stereotype to make life easier to appease white males. But, it doesn't work because that mindset is simply nasty and vile.

No, they like seeing subservient Mexicans and no blacks.

I feel your pain; but, you don't want to be known as a "bitch", rather docile. To them, we are unlovable and disrespectful. They mistake our strength and resolve as a means to effeminate them, when it's not. Going through so much shit made our backs a little bit stronger, despite the fact that the words still cut and…

Oh dang really? I live in the California Bay Area/ Silicon Valley which is like 60-70% asian/ south asian demographics wise. It's really a nice little bubble here in comparison to some other places. Perhaps you've just been to some bad places in Cali? It's not so bad in these tech/ collegiate pockets

Are you half Filipino by any chance? Just wondering out of curiosity. And I totally get the perpetual foreigner thing. Cause that's all Asians are in the US and in Europe. The icky, slanty eyed, math genius, does nothing but speak Engrish yellow people who eat cats and dogs.

Exoticizing groups of women based on race is definitely not uncommon, and wholly disgusting. The Creepy White Guys tumblr account has countless accounts of this exact thing. I remember a Buzzfeed article about how frustrating it is to be an Asian woman on dating sites, particularly OkCupid, simply due to the amount of…

As an asian american woman myself, I hate the entitled attitude caucasian men have toward our bodies. It does not mean I dislike caucasian men in a racist manner, but in their attitudes in the court of race dynamics. They think that we will be docile subservient slaves to their desires. Accessory wives that are not as…

I'm 28 and, if anything, I've become even more defensive of my independent life as the years have gone on. I keep waiting for this feeling to change. I suppose all I can say is just tune into yourself and don't apologize for what you feel.

Preach, lady. I'm 27.

I blame the "Body after Baby" spreads that trashy magazines do. I guess it's a crime against humanity if a woman's body doesn't bounce back after birth.

Totally with you on this, although I have other reasons for not wanting children, this is a big one. It's not even about what men think so much or that I'm super hot or something to begin with, it's just this feeling of total lack of control, and to the extent the physical body is identity, of becoming literally a…

I am ashamed to admit that I fear my man leaving me if my body didn't bounce back after pregnancy. That's not a reflection on him, but rather a reflection on how I view myself - my value is tied up in my beauty. And I hate that so much.

This is, I am ashamed to say, my biggest struggle with having children. I realize how attached i am to my body, and what it is to me, and I am scared of what will change and that I may not be able to accept those changes. I feel ashamed of this.

This is southern california, rich educated rednecks. Plus some of the worst drivers in the world.

I'm going to guess that a person of any color who is robbing you doesn't care much what you think of them or what you call them. However, every other black person in the vicinity will hear you saying a word associated with literally centuries of terrorism against black americans, a word that often preceded or signaled…

Do you really want me to believe that you have friends?

The dudes in PB ARE bros and I don't care what anyone says. And yes douche is a great way to classify the Gaslamp types. I generally don't wander out of North Park/Hillcrest/University Heights but there-in lies a whole other set of problems hahaha

This matrix is missing the Southern California type which I have just been introduced to. They aren't really jocks, unless you count moto cross? And they have lifted trucks and really high socks and trucker hats. I guess they have the dudeliness?

They are having a sad that they don't live in Hawaii so they make up for it by coopting the only Hawaiian slang they know.

I went to a college that had a well established, but not over whelming Greek scene (it wasn't go greek or go home- but you definitely knew who were and who weren't) And there was a historically black fraternity that totally counted as "bros" (I couldn't even begin to tell you what fraternity. Tappa Kegga Brew? They…