aw,this one's definitely in the top 3!

no,this one's my favorite!

this one's my favorite! look at it!

This is now an Oolong thread!

nvm. :)

Thanks for another considered and considerate comment, Ari. As usual, you've brought up points that I hadn't really considered previously.

And also that there is room between "Hi, maybe if you are not busy, you could finish my music, please?" and "Have my music fucking ready and don't look at me". Perhaps "Have my music ready in 2 hours, please". That is both polite AND assertive.

Solidarity Davies. I like to be polite too. It's how I operate. And I think you hit the nail on the head with this statement

"Don't fucking talk to me. Have my fucking music ready. Get the fuck up out of my face" -> Is not standing up for yourself. It's being rude. As the saying goes, "Rudeness is the weak man's imitation of strength".

Being polite, and having manners, is just behaving in a way that makes other people feel comfortable.

I am all for trying to be polite, but sometimes when you are at work and shit is hitting the fucking fan, you just need things to get DONE. And if you waste time couching your words or beating around about it, then people tend not to take your directives seriously. Particularly when you are a woman. Sometimes, it's…

This may be a different area of manners, but one skill that seems to be dying but is really important is the run-of-the-mill introduction. It's important, people! If you are hanging out with your girl Mary and the two of you run into your other friend Susie and Mary and Susie don't know each other, DON'T SAY A WORD…

Wait, get this: I wash MENSTRUAL PADS with my clothes! How fucking gross is that? How bout this: you are constantly shedding skin, hair, and fluids and your clothes soak up most of it. EW! Time for disposable clothes. I hope some of those paper dresses survived the 60s.

Counterpoint: Ew

No, but think of the crinkle sounds...

Your underwear gets dirty, too, but most of us don't wear paper panties.

I really want "I've dealt with the public" to be the new "I'm familiar with the rules of the internet."

I co-mod a fairly popular blog on Tumblr about male privilege, and have received countless rape and death threats as a result. The founder of the blog was driven off Tumblr completely when a group of detractors doxxed her, posting not only her full name, address, and other details, but pictures of the outside of her…