You’re allowed to feel this way. But it’s not forever. Read all the loving advice below. You don’t have to be alone. Online and IRL the helpers are there, and they want to help you. We want to help you.

Maybe get some kind of part time job or volunteer to get out of the house? I don’t know your family situation, but if you have relatives or friends who can watch the kid, take advantage. If your kid is really young, they won’t even be awake. My kids slept like 20 hours a day until they were 6 or 9 months old.

You’re not alone. People have felt this way for thousands of years. Just know that it does get better. If your baby is still an infant, you’re going through an emotional recovery. I was so thrilled to be having my first baby, then it was an emotional slap in the face the moment after delivery. The 2nd one was the…

You did not stop being human when you became a mother! No one likes every aspect of every job, and a lot of child care is shitty. Literally. Cut yourself some slack.

You sound like you care so much, I promise you’re not going to hold your daughter back. You’re human, we’re not perfect as a species, but it sounds like you’re trying your best and it’s working. Like everyone else said, you may have a chemical imbalance, it’s so common, and nothing to be ashamed of. :)

volunteer? join a knitting group? start an etsy store? something that involves (slightly stimulating) interactions with other adults that gives you a break and allows you to focus on you.

You are in no way a failure although you may very well be depressed, which is totally normal. Find a therapist, darling. And join a moms group or playgroup or something, even if that seems like the absolute last thing you want to do right now. You need human contact. GROWN UP human contact, preferably with people who…

i had paid maternity leave for one year and i was back at work two weeks after i had my daughter. being home all the time wasn’t an option for my sanity either. it’s ok.

It’s ok spend your entire salary on daycare if that's what you want to do. It’s an investment in your future (thank you Lean In) and your sanity.

((((HUGS))))

Girl, you will be OKAY. None of these feelings you’re having are aaaaanything you should feel guilty about, not for one single minute. I’m seconding everything Olivia and other commenters said below, and adding that as someone who’s always been adamantly opposed to having kids, I can easily imagine that this is…

You will be okay. Your daughter will be okay. There is no shame in feeling this way. I can remember many a morning, post baby, spent on my kitchen floor sobbing to my mother on the phone. I’m going to tell you what she told me: Breathe. Don’t buy into the perfect mother hype. Don’t let the shame creep in. Tell your…

So glad to see positive, helpful responses here. I just want you to know that you’re not the only person to ever feel this way. Being a mom is HARD; it’s work whether you stay home with your child or work outside of the home. I agree with the recommendations that you should seek help from the people who care about you…

I’m curious as to how old she is? Could any of this be postpartum depression? Do you have any relief help from your partner? I don’t know anything about being a parent so I don’t think I have many words of wisdom. You just do the best you can and know that you are heard here.

Parenting is often hard, boring and tedious, but if you feel like a complete failure all or most of the time then it may be postpartum depression making you feel that way. Do you have access to any counselling or other support services where you are?

you sound like you are having a really hard time. Motherhood is hard and body and career wrecking, but you will have to do a lot to completely ruin your child’s life.

good luck to you (I hope you can get some support) and kudos for being able to admit it’s not for you.

Sending the biggest internet hugs to you rn.

You sound very depressed. SSRIs can help. And maybe talk to the moms on Scary Mommy. Also, if you really can’t do it, give her to someone else temporarily. I’m sorry you’re hurting

1. It *is* boring and tedious, especially the first 24 months or so. It gets better.
2. You should consult a medical professional about treatment for post-partum depression. What you are feeling is real, but it’s possible there are chemical things going on in your body and mind that make it seem worse than it is.