Please remember that kink shaming is not okay

Honestly, I just really don’t give a shit about men in this regard, not anymore. My concern is with the welfare of women, and how these things effect the individual women involved AND how they contribute to a climate of violence towards all women. I’ve seen too many men exploit and abuse the idea of kink-shaming and…

Yeah, I think there’s something deeply wrong with you if you want to play the part of the rapist. If that’s not repellent to you, you’re fucked up.

Except women having rape fantasies is a thing completely outside a man’s choice to repeatedly simulate rape. Given the prevalance of rape and abuse - primarily of women - in sex work, porn, and BDSM, it’s relevant and valid to question the motivations of the men who choose to participate in them repeatedly and…

Liberal feminists, and those practicing other forms of non-radical, utterly male-appeasing feminism.

I’ve been trying forever to piece together early warning signs of a rapist...but I can’t. You never know...the “nicest” guys I’ve dated engaged in non-consensual sexual acts with me.

As theories go, “the husband/boyfriend did it” is usually the most likely one, so while your friend might be crazy in this instance her tinfoil hat may not need too much adjustment.

why otherwise intelligent women can get suckered in by selfish, narcissistic men

Two weeks ago I posted about my boyfriend demanding I have an abortion (after he told me to go off the pill because he wanted children). I went through with the abortion, mostly because I didn’t want to lose him. I didn’t really want to get rid of my baby, but I couldn’t imagine life without him. Everyone told me he…

When you really look at it, a fair amount of “deliberate incompetence” is actually blackmail/emotional abuse. How many times have you heard a man, or a third party speaking for a man, joke about how they’ll gladly watch the kids, and they won’t let them burn the house down either. (The punch line is always different,…

You don’t get what “silent work” is. Silent work isn’t work that you don’t talk about. It’s work that’s not recognized or acknowledged as work. Work that can be outsourced to a handyman or a mechanic is not remotely equivalent to managing the emotional health, wellness, activities and calendars of everyone in the…

How about... If your spouse/boyfriend/whatever neglects to do any of the “emotional work,” and you feel that it’s vital he do, then you ask him to do so?

Because men don’t see the emotional work. Women are socialized from birth to recognize and respond to it. Men are not. The effort to bring men up to speed is exhausting. You talk and talk and talk until you’re blue in the face, hoping for one *aha* moment, and when it happens, they expect a freaking trophy because…

But part of the problem is that asking is part of the emotional work. Recognizing that it needs to be done, planning it, delegating tasks, all of that goes unseen.

Emotional expectations for men are created by men. Emotional expectations for women are also created by men. Feminists are working on this, but if you want to see change, women aren’t the people you need to snark at.

Hi Jezzies!

Male leads on shows are unlikable and insufferable all of the time. Far worse than Piper or Nancy. Neither raped a woman steps away from the dinner table her husband and his wife were at like Don Draper. Neither are serial murderers and also tediously boring like Dexter. Or homicidal drug kingpins like Walt White. Or…

I suspect you’re coming from a good place but I really can’t tell if that was meant as irony. (Most) women wouldn’t speak up to say they have aren’t informed enough to comment on a topic.

Thank you Hillary. This is a story that makes me smile because the badass women are getting shit done. And makes me furious that it has taken badass women who can get shit done, to get shit done because all the fucking men who run shit found a way to get all the weed smokers in jail but not the fucking rapists.

Remember kids: Black Lives Matter is a bunch of whiners who are looking for reasons to be offended. The real oppression is a lack of Christmas iconography on your coffee cups.