I'm disturbed by how many men think they are straight up entitled to women after giving a "compliment." It's part of rape culture - men have some internalized that they are entitled to a woman and that this kind of rage is an acceptable response to minor rejection.

Yes, that's an entirely female thing. Those crazy, stupid teenaged girls—if only they could be as wise and mature as teenaged boys!

I knew a guy in college who organized anti-rape and pro-body image events with his frat and would often wear a pink shirt that said "THIS IS WHAT A FEMINIST LOOKS LIKE." He was cute and funny and I thought, Wow, he must not be like the others.

happiness is a warm large cat.

I'm sorry you're going through this today. As an also-single&32 gal, all I can offer is the encouragement to grit your teeth and keep your head up. Be proud that you are brave and spoke up to Z to say how you feel. It's weird how much it can hurt to make something stop hurting.

I'm sorry you're so lonely. If I were you, I'd focus on building a good support network in your new home. Get a pet. Take a class. Volunteer. Find a circle of friends that you can spend time with, so you don't get so lost in your next relationship. It's not realistic for one person to be your sole source of comfort.

Wow, that really sucks. Just hang in there, I'm sure someone will come along. There's no "last chance at happiness" until you die, and even that's disputable.

I am dealing with something similar (met the most amazing man two months before moving across the country, spent the time pretending everything would be okay) and all I have to say is that it wasn't pretend. You did have those moments, you did have those feelings, and you will always have those memories. Try to focus…

I'm with you; I've only ever gotten to date men I don't like much, and at 38 I get to hear about how I should settle for someone who makes me feel lonely because as an over-35 I don't really deserve love. I'm not sure what I should have done differently, but the feelings are still there since most of my friends are…

you WILL find someone. Z was a great guy, and it's not that he didn't care for you, but he's not in the right place for a relationship. LDR are so very very difficult. I know it's hard, but you need to try to get out - join a gym, a walking club, a skiing club, a book club, SOMETHING. Sitting alone at night is not…

Nothing I can say will help. Long, sensual amazing weekends where you felt like the world was spinning out of control? Gosh, that's hard to let go of. But you were brave to do it rather than waste a year playing.

Only just saw this for some reason! Thanks for sharing. I think for a long time I was trapped into thinking that depression is a medical problem and it's not his fault. To a certain extent that's true and I feel horrible that he has to deal with this but it is ultimately his choice not to seek all the help that is…

Perfectly apt quote. You win.

I think you need to ask yourself why you don't want to pick a side. This isn't an issue that lends itself to being morally ambiguous, IMO. By not choosing a side, I'd actually venture that you are choosing a side. By being quick to ask for approved varieties of evidence and having a completely detached emotional…

gee, what part of 'she was living in Las Vegas and he was living in San Diego' makes this *her* chasing after *him*? How about: why are men so fixated on their "right" to have a certain woman that they think it's ok to rape, beat, and murder her?

Really? I'm curious about how you can be so sure of that.

That's because there is no fear or respect for female parts. Penises are the organs that are socially and culturally viewed as vehicles of aggression or a source of pride. Vaginas, it's the opposite: they are constructed as passive, and shameful. So, it's no wonder men at large don't view anything off about a barrage…

your current partner looking at naked photos of an ex isn't something you need to get over. It's something he needs to not be doing.

I love that people are saying, "Poor Nick" but if this were a Bachelor contestant, people would call her "hysterical" or a "clinger".