Yes and they actually consider women declining their "polite propositions" to be an attack on them. Because we are essentially malfunctioning—we're meant to decorate their world and accept their degradation and abuse with grins on.

How can I mind my business when kinksters are flaunting their kinks and fetishes all over the place. If you want sexual privacy, try keeping it private. Have fun!

Agreed.

There you go, assuming I must not like certain things because I'm not aboard the obnoxious self-identified "kinkster" train. Grow up. "Kinky" stuff is just sex. You're not that wild or out there, trust me.

Nope, I'm actually quite comfortable with my sexuality and am open to a lot of different things. I just don't need to wear a label about it and adopt the Persecuted Enlightened Minority persona. In fact I'd argue that treating sex like just a normal, yet private, thing that may or may not involve "kink" (however…

Pretty ballsy to compare your struggle to the gay rights struggle. Why do you have to call yourself *anything*? Just because you like to get tied up/tie people up doesn't mean you need to broadcast it to the world and assume a label to differentiate yourself from people who aren't into that. Notice I haven't mentioned…

Actually I think appraising is perfect. Because it's their world and we're just livin' in it, like objects in a boutique.

They do sense it and their dicks like it.

Oh and another way this manifests is men will bully women into performing sex acts they don't want by claiming it's their fetish, and if you loved me you'd do anal because it's my fetish [insert sad pathetic puppy dog face, which ain't sexy btw]. You don't want me to be sexually unsatisfied do you? A good girlfriend…

I'm suspicious of anyone who blabs incessantly about how kinky they are. Everyone is quick to claim they have some kink or "fetish" these days. Getting aroused by titties, for instance, is not a "fetish;" hate to break it to you but you basic. And being a misogynist is not a protected sexual class. The More Sexually…

Huh? That's because it wasn't BDSM; it was straight up assault by a man who's disingenuously claiming BDSM because he thinks (probably correctly) that critics will back off out of fear of "judging."

He does not misunderstand BDSM. He is using sex-positivity/the normalization of kink as a shield because it's so easy to get a pass when you cry "kink shaming!" He knows.

Men are the ones who perpetuate this stereotype. Take it up with them.

Pretty wild how far men have to stretch to make it seem like dating women as a man is as dangerous as dating men as a woman.

Help me not be a dork, please. I swore I'd never make the first move on a man again but ... I think I'll be celibate for life unless I do. :( I am trying to decide whether to give a guy my number on Monday. We are in a yoga workshop together and Monday is the last class. No wedding ring and he is taking the class…

Oh what a sweetheart. I'm very sorry. I'm sure his memory will always be a blessing to you.

Boo hoo hoo. He is not heartbroken over Shauna. He doesn't miss Shauna. He is heartbroken because he just realized that without her, he will have to prepare his own meals more than a few times a month, and may not have someone to be his caretaker as he grows old. Sadly it looks like this pathetic song and dance worked…

BZZT, wrong. We do not want a guy who is exclusively in touch with his own emotions/feelings/desires. We want a guy who is in touch with OUR emotions/feelings/desires in addition to his own, and behaves accordingly. The former is just a self-obsessed, selfish egomaniac.

Thanks for your kind words as well. I know that shame feeling too, for being so much more interested and invested and interpreting everything in a way that reinforced my hopes and dreams for what we could be. Bleaching red flags white. It is really hard not to put myself out there one last time just to say, "If you…

I'm sorry. I know how you feel. I am struggling lately with wanting to reach out to the man who recently broke my heart. In fact earlier today I was repeating the mantra "I will not touch the stove that burned me to see if it's still hot" because I know the result would most likely leave me more of a mess. The lack of…