Just the instigator, I guess. I like boys and all, but I'm a little more comfortable around girls. I'll get over myself.

You didn't sound unsympathetic at all. I've been in a place where my scars were a point of pride. I'm moving away from it now, but it's not that far gone.

Not a specific one, unfortunately, but the future's looking bright! And yeah, a few of the scars are recent, which adds another dimension to the whole thing.

I've thought about trying to come up with a story, but it felt weird to me. I'm still trying to figure things out, though, so that may change in the future. Thanks for your perspective; it's good to hear different stories, and I'm glad you've managed to move on.

Or to say, "I am totally interested in you groping my ass."

Trustworthy for sure, which is awesome. I'm just a little weirdly hung up about this, because I haven't dated a boy in a while, and it's tripping me up a little, even though it shouldn't.

This would have been me a few years ago, so I definitely see your point. I used to be weirdly proud of my scars- something that flares up once in a while. One of the reasons I asked the question is because I'm trying to develop a healthier relationship with my scars.

Thanks. That's good to hear, and it's awesome that you're so direct about it.

Thanks for the response. For me, everything else is pretty mild (cellulite, stretch marks, birthmarks, etc.), and I'm solidly in the 'you can deal with it' camp on those. But I absolutely do not do not want foreplay to turn into a conversation about my various mental health issues, so I lean on the warning side for…

Commiseration time! This boy is clearly into me, and I'm kinda into him, but he won't DO ANYTHING. I think it's just a result of social awkwardness and inexperience, but goddamn I want some touching.

Sexytimes question! Do you warn your partner about awkward scars before the clothes come off, and if so, how? I wouldn't, except that A: the scars look like self-harm scars (and they are), and B: they're concentrated in hidden areas (i.e. under my knickers and bra band); I feel like both of these things can sort of…

This is beautiful.

FUCK THE POPE!

No worries! The way I think of it is that the past tense verb is wrong because it implies a completed process: person was male, now female (or vice versa), which really doesn't reflect the experience at all. Anyhow, thanks for listening!

Congratulations and best of luck!

I think we all have to draw our own lines when it comes to liking problematic things. For me, it's important to be aware of the artist's flaws and NEVER try to defend someone on the basis of how much I like their work.

THANK YOU! A lot of people think of fake fur and fake leather as consequence-free, when in fact they are damaging to the environment (and as a result, to animals). I definitely agree that folks should consider both sides before making a decision, and recognize that their choices are damaging either way.

I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE. Whoa.

I usually like it as well; it's just been a long weekend. Anyhow, best of luck!