...And that is the choice I am making. It's been a long time coming, much therapy/tears/blaming, accepting, etc. "Good enough" and just OK and low-level unhappiness and a celibate roommate relationship just won't cut it for the next 20 years of my life, no matter how good the surface companionship stuff is.

That's a brave statement, and your first step has been to realize that you have needs and want more/different. I have totally been there and when I first started feeling that way it completely shook me up, totally rocked me (and we weren't having *any* sex). I was shaking up my whole world. Work through on your own…

I hear you regularjane, but not everyone is up for that. I have been in a long-term relationship that's been essentially sexless for several years. Not acceptible for me, I felt a lot of guilt about it, what did I do, how could I fix it, etc. Plus other ish that I worked on but he could only go so far with. My…

This foodie had to google Poutine. Hey sounds like what we in EnJay know as disco fries, the staple of every one of our famous diners and official snack of Garden State stoners.

Oh dear. Must save to Pocket to avoid losing the rest of the day and several deadlines. The 70s blog alone will cost me hours, as you've predicted.

These kinds of abominations live on, unironically, in the present day. Several years ago a cousin of my then-partner showed up at a family gathering w/a crock pot (of course) of I think cut-up sausages in some kind of sweet and sour gelatin concoction. Revolting.

Love this — great intersection of 2 passions, food + vintage advertising. Gelatin food freaks me the hell out. As a kid I ate my share of Jello w/Cool Whip, but as a savory food, or with stuff suspended in it, surrounded by lettuce? DO. NOT. WANT. And as an Italian American, never having grown up with those aspic…

I LOVE community/junior league cookbooks like this. They are such time capsules. I have many of them, although I never cook out of them, just love to browse the recipes.

Newsflash: I still have them, courtesy of yard sales and purloining from elderly female relatives. They work great, are essentially indestructible, are oven/microwave safe and clear lids help you see what's in them in the fridge.

OK this actually looks awesome and something I'd like to eat! Ditto to the open faced sandwich thing w/an umlaut (?) downthread.

I hear what you're saying and why you'd take umbrage to the beginning of her statement. My experience/observation as a counselor and just reading reports like these is that so many people (maybe Gabrielle in this case, who knows) tend to distance themselves from tough situations by speaking in the 2nd person — YOUR…

It's Arbonne. Great products, definitely cruelty free, all vegan. Safe, pure and beneficial, as we say.

I use the Paul Mitchell Dry Wash. Redken has one too that was good. Great for post-workout, and to make a shampoo/blowout last.

I have long curly hair and I keep it simple by doing what my hair cutter recommends, for years: towel dry, use Paul Mitchell The Conditioner, then Paul Mitchell Round Trip Curl Definer. Comb back into a ponytail/bun, then don't touch till it's dry. Much less frizz and bushiness, smoother and sleeker while still being…

I'm an independent consultant for a line of botanically-based cosmetics that I use exclusively, EXCEPT for Almay's liquid eyeliner. I'm a klutz w/liner and the applicator makes it super-easy to use. I love the purple color and that Almay tells you which shade works best with your eye color. Inexpensive and long…

OK I am now sobbing like a PMS'ing tween at this. As someone who is trying to defy gravity in my own way by making major life changes, this really hit home.

Yes, exactly! This is my shape! I love to show it off, but man those high waists do me no favors. I look too stumpy. Plus I have very athletic legs so am kind of thick, though proudly so.

EMS is smaller than REI, and IMO it's gone downhill a bit in terms of quality and bargains. Although I've gotten a lot of clothing there over the years, I do tend to go to REI now because of their selection and excellent customer service.

Good for you for being open to it! I'm a woman who is dying to try this. My bf is not into it, despite being extremely open minded and sexual... but at least he's willing to find a guy for me to try it with. He's totally ready to see my with another man, which could be hot for me as well. I have always wanted to try…

Call me a late adopter, but i just binged watched Breaking Bad. I hadn't seen it while it was running, waited till it ended. Wow, just wow. It's all on Netflix, except for the last 8 episodes, which come out on 2/24. Boy was that a buzzkill when I finished the first 8 of Season 5 and there was nothing left.