Yup. Any time someone lists “damaged” as a quality they find attractive about you, that’s a red flag. That word doesn’t fit in the list but it’s telling he chose to include it.

I think part of the pattern too has to do with control. Shitty men date women 20 years younger than them because they need to be in control, and similarly aged women are less likely to take their bullshit, but younger women don’t always have the life experience to see through that shit until they’re in a relationship…

So, if I’m reading this correctly his alibi is that he was cheating on her?

You ought to reconsider who you believe. Crimes against women are an epidemic and all studies show women underreport or fail to report crime at all, often for fear of not being believed. Check your misogyny. 

Generally, I tend to believe the guy when it comes to these tales

It’s the men who find the “being damaged” part so alluring. God knows I heard that a lot in my early 20s, and it took me a while to realize how goddamn gross that is.

Seriously, she shot her twice in the back as she was fleeing because she feared having her gun taken??

I love that *this* is what you think about and care about when you just read a commentor’s story of abuse of her and her friend.

He’s a man dating a woman half his age. Of course, he’s a controlling douchebag.

As I get older I sense a following pattern with men, especially men of privilege *cough Johnny Depp* :

They’re young and beautiful and the loves of their early lives are equal-aged women of similar beauty and stardom, they wed, the next decade more or less (in Phillippe’s case a bit less) their careers continue to…

Deadly Invasion: The Killer Bee Nightmare sounds intriguing.

Phillippe, in depositions and court filings, describes how he made up his mind before the incident that Hewitt wasn’t “the right fit for him,” and that he feared his children would see pictures of him with a much younger, “revealingly” dressed woman. In text messages sent July 5 and obtained in September 2017 by Holly…

I really struggle to understand how someone riding a scooter turns into a situation where you need to shoot them.

“I am not as comfortable with this one as the last one.”

He’s doing the stupid thing. A minor actress? Come on. If he wanted the media to deify him and vilify her, he should find himself a 34-year-old single mom putting herself through veterinary school.

All the cool kids are dressing like your dad these days. 

Oh thank god, I haven’t bought anything yet today to fill the emptiness inside of me and now I can fill it with these! Serotonin here I come.

Why are those kids dressed like my dad in 1993?

I think the quote from NPR had it right - women are just used to having a certain amount of pain on a daily basis (pretty much all adult women I know own/carry around multiple bottles of ibuprofen) so when men experience it, it becomes The Worst Thing Ever. Kind of like when a toddler falls down and skins their knee,…

Really? My husband is such a pain baby. ANY little pain and he’ll fret about it. I’m so used to having sore tits, some aching in my ovaries at times, aches in my back at times, sore feet, my left hip, etc. I just figure that’s part of being alive. Whereas he views pain as a sign of something potentially serious. I…