Yeaaah definitely ignore him after that. Also read Gift of Fear. I don't go on OKC anymore because the guys on it seem to fit that stereotype and have scary ideas about women.

"But my feefees!"

Oh God, this was my thinking for so long. Getting in a relationship to make him happy first then hoping the attraction and happiness would come later for me. Barf.

I understand why you would think that. I was reading some comments in a Dr. Nerdlove article, and someone made a good point about the choice of blaming yourself versus not wanting to be at fault. It's a double edged sword. While blaming yourself in a situation like this leaves you hurt and confused, it gives you hope…

Perfectly stated! And look how his crazy mind games made her question her intuition and how well she treated him. My goodness.

What an asshole! In so many ways!

I feel you with the online dating thing. :/ Look at my comment history. I usually just ignore messages if I'm not interested because of said backlash.

I'm with you 100%. If he lets me know what's going on, it lets me move on faster.

That exact 3-date situation happened to me. And the guy wasn't in his 20's anymore! If he just rejected me nicely like in the examples you listed, that would have been great, and kept me from wondering wtf happened.

I approach men to make conversation in person, and try to initiate with messages online if they really interest me. 50/50 is preferable to me in terms of the "work" in dating, much like friendship.

Right? Stories like that didn't help when I said yes to guys I shouldn't have and ended up in a miserable relationship with no attraction on my end.

No! I won't allow it, grrr.

I feel like I want to move to Denmark now. U.S. culture is not as free and liberal as many think it is. :/

I wish it was that simple for everyone. I reject guts outright and now I'm afraid for my personal safety reading about these poor women getting hit for saying no.

What?? That is messed up. I'm getting more and more depressed about the dating world.

This is so sad but true. :/ I try to break out of my comfort zone to ask guys out on dates but I fear "omg they are not into me/will think I'm slutty" because I made the first move.

I'm rooting for her too. :)

That show was so good until he started acting like a complete jerk in Season 2.

I love the Ke$ha bit. Well done, sir. XD