I agree that the two are different sets of things, but I think that even if arousal wasn't exactly the effect that the poets were trying to create, attraction, or something similar, was a part of the effect that they were trying to create when they conceived the scenes.

Although I disagree with the piece's author on many points, I think they are correct that these sites are misogynistic, and that that misogyny is a problem. We are in a society in which violence is often gendered, after all.

I didn't mean to diss the analogy itself - it is a good way of describing some people's desires! I have just had a few too many people try to convince me that it was a universally valuable one, and one that I/others *should* follow (which is totally not your fault!), so I'm a bit frustrated and bitter whenever I hear…

I think that what queen of the imps describes is exactly what a rape fantasy is. Someone who fantasizes about something "innocuous" (being gently seduced by loving co-worker; cheating on partner in process) but who wouldn't actually go through with the imagined acts (e.g. they would never, ever actually cheat on their…

To me, the gender disparity is a huge problem. I don't know if the majority of the viewers are men or women, but in either case the gendered story is a huge part of the kink - this is about women being killed.

Maybe he was confused because of peanuts?

Yup. I could stand half the action and half the zombies (I would love the suspense!) if they kept the story interesting in the interim. This is such an interesting situation to look at, and they are burning their chance on cheesy clichés.

Agreed agreed agreed! I find that on the whole, when men are disadvantaged by sexist institutions and practices that also disadvantage women and fight back, they often get ridiculed here. The point is that the sexism is bad for everyone, albeit in different ways ("gents: pay to get in" vs "ladies: your entrance costs…

Same thing here... I know that I should just grow up and go, that there is no excuse, etc., but at this point it's been so long that I am afraid of what they will find if I do go.

Exactly - nothing new here. If anything it's a look that's unattainable for a greater number of women than full-on skinniness is, since it requires that one not only stay thin, but still put weight on one's breasts and hips.

I find the car analogy frustrating. It totally is an apt way of capturing some people's approach to relationships - and it's as good an approach as any - but it really doesn't encapsulate what everyone wants and needs from sex.

I have terrible taste in names, but those sound seriously awesome to me. Plus, Diamond Ruby Starr has a cool namesake - [en.wikipedia.org] !

Jihayden! The one name guaranteed to make everyone angry, albeit for different reasons... someone has to make this happen!

the last names make these even more wonderful. I'm particularily taken by Small-hope Bigg and Mortifie Hicks.

When I was a kid in the 1990s, Jihad was a fairly common name - there were maybe 4 or 5 kids with that name in my school, out of about 400 students. The only Jihad that I knew personally was a friend of my brother's - a ridiculously sweet and funny kid. His mother volunteered organizing fundraising activities for our…

Yup! I'm dreading all of the events seem to expect you to be paired up (work parties where everyone has a plus one, so you get stuck with an empty place besides you at an odd-numbered people table? yup!), so you are stuck tagging along and being the 5th wheel to a bunch of happy couples.

Same boat here - I'm an atheist, but from a Catholic background, and I love Christmas; the religious dimension is just not there.

The clichéd criticisms really get on my nerves too! Yeah, we live in a materialistic society, so of course, we're going to express things (like love) through materialistic means (like buying presents for people we love). It's not a bad thing. And it's definitely not an unusual one!

That should work, but I'm betting that you will get lots of people who, once they think that you are infertile, feel the need to tell you about how wonderful adoption is and how, as an infertile woman, it is your responsibility to rescue all of the unwanted children of the world.

This - don't mess with perfection, it will not be improved upon.