I like the cut of your jib.

In general, Jez’ reporting on anything remotely involving the law (divorce actions, frivolous lawsuits, plea bargains, etc) almost always includes a significant mistake. From the cause of action being poorly stated, to confusing ‘acquitted’ with ‘mistrial’ (in that case, the Bill Cosby action).

I don’t know, but it irritates me to no end. In general, Jez’ reporting on anything remotely involving the law (divorce actions, frivolous lawsuits, plea bargains, etc) almost always includes a significant mistake. From the cause of action being poorly stated, to confusing ‘acquitted’ with ‘mistrial.’

SIGH. Every time this story is updated:

You are so right, Goddess. And yes, it is like I’m storing up emotional crumbs - like a few more times together is going to make this somehow easier. SIGH. Thank you for this insight, I appreciate it.

This is great advice, thank you! I definitely need to take better of myself (mentally and physically) and this is the time to start. Thank you.

Don’t let him break your heart in stages.

Of course it is! It must be horrible to have to tolerate that.

It’s an open relationship. We see/have sex with other people. Unfortunately (for me) he loves this young woman. He believes he can only love one person at a time; I do not believe I can only love one person at a time.

Thank you for the support. A lot of commenters are suggesting I walk away now, and it does make sense. I’m sorry you went through this too.

Thank you so much, this is all excellent advice.

Thanks Coco. You are a really nice commenter around here, so I appreciate your thoughts. Thank you.

Thank you so much. Yeah I think there is going to a long slog of white-knuckling-distract-in-any-way-possible. Thanks.

Thanks, this is helpful. I plan on respecting his boundaries - which is why I’m asking for help on how to take care of myself so I CAN do that, you know?

It’s not that difficult to make the tiles square, it just takes some planning (along with a tape measure and a good level).

If this is a sibling and there is absolutely no way to change your living situation...

This is good advice, thank you. No, I don’t want to be That Person who doesn’t respect boundaries. Part of why this is going to be so hard - he’s setting very clear lines and I have to figure out how to live with those lines. :(

Funny you should say that. I moved from one coast to another (in part) to try to end things. It didn’t work. The past three years I’ve been back in our mutual city.

Hey Jezzies -

WHAT IS HAPPENING HERE