I wasn't planning on conning my way in this year but I would if I could hang with people that don't make me rage y.

I dunno, this is not a reflection of her motives (of which I know not), but I find myself communicating similarly in professional settings. Part of it is being a good communicator (framing it so someone you disagree with just might listen), part of it (for me) is feeling like I'll get labelled angry/emotional/crazy if…

Cool. I've read it also. This isn't a Gavin de Becker bashing contest. A well known quote went unattributed by a more-than-once published author. He could have fixed it but, even more, his editor could have. Neither did. Probably not maliciously but there it is. Intent was probably not negative, they were super busy,…

That is pretty terrifying.

Attributed to Margaret Atwood discussing writing male characters in 1983, rephrased and no credit given to her by DeBecker in 2000. To no one's shock, I'm sure.

Agendas unite!

A supervisor told me to stop pushing my 'female agenda' once, when I was seeking a promotion. Well, I had an agenda (promotion, professional success) AND I AM A WOMAN... CAUGHT ME. It isn't an agenda when you are just trying to live your life and be happy. Or maybe it is but it isn't agenda the pejorative. Having an…

"Every single day until April 8 of this year, when intensive therapy started to feel like it was working."

It is fair that the comment is not really enough of an admission, I suppose my irk is the difference between blocked accounts and IT cluster f.

Queue the inevitable "I know a person who isn't Asian that couldn't buy so it probably wasn't profiling." Except there is a big difference between your friend whose account wasn't purposefully disabled due to perceived race/ethnicity not getting in due to tech issues (welcome to all online mega-sales) and the company…

That is not at all the 'science' position.

Crap on a cracker, people are all critical after they (ostensibly) waited until after they actually got married? YOU JUST CAN'T WIN. "You should have sex after you prayed" "You didn't pray long enough" "Your prayers and reflection this whole time do not meet my roving moral standard, you trollop." UGH. Stupid. Have…

the last refuge of the troll, the need for other people to research easily found studies

A alleged perpetrator's past documented proto criminal and criminal behaviors are relevant, whereas the victims past is irrelevant to a perpetrator's behavior. Considering your odd property crime analogy previously used in this thread, maybe this will help: a accused robbers past pickpocketing is relevant, while their…

I presume the victim is telling the truth. Because that is the first step. If you can't see how that leads to results that are helpful and how dismissing crimes altogether without the follow on steps, I don't know that you can draw an equivalence. But of course you will anyway, because being a commenter for a week and…

So, on 9/15/14 6:11pm, you stated that comparing rape to property crimes was a false equivalence because police don't investigate robberies that victims don't cooperate with them to prosecute and so rapes won't be prosecuted if the victim doesn't cooperate. Of course, the equivalence is actually more like murder,…

calling bias objectiveness doesn't make it so

And here. Ignorance of human behavior in traumatic scenarios. I think I'll stop reviewing your past thread posts to point out where you fail to apply your self-proclaimed "trauma expertise" because it is pretty much all of them and I have shit to do. You should get it. I mean, I imagine you don't because it is clear…

Here, where you display false sympathy for "real" victims at the expense of someone whose experience is far more common that whatever you think is "real" rape. Just pointing to another instance of you showing that you don't know anything about trauma, PTSD, or anything else that you claim to.

Or even here, where you compare robbery to rape, a false comparison. In rape, the sex is the weapon and the victim is robbed of their bodily autonomy, feelings of basic humanity, and power/control. Sometimes even their worldview. Robbery is a bad analogy and (again) displays that you do not have the *expertise* with…