Good news. I got accepted by Brown University! And fellow POC who I did a summer program with have recently gotten into Stanford, Georgetown and Cornell! So happy to be a lot more stress free and to see all this black excellence.

Holidays are coming up and my divorce is about to be final. I’m so sick of feeling so shitty. My husband left me for another woman after an above average to at times even great life together. Life with two kids and two full time jobs is hard. We had ruts. But listening to other people’s problems I always thought we…

His female characters are always so rich and large and honest in terms of how they’re feeling and he just knows how to write dialogue for them to communicate all that.

This is what being an ally looks like! Thank you, John Oliver, for using your privilege to hold Hoffman accountable. For any men wondering ‘what do I do’, this is it. You speak up and don’t let abusers get away with idiotic responses.

Super gal who could one day be your friend-thread! Okay, so I’m serious. I need friends who I’ve got some common interests or emotional connection to. I’m happy to communicate online, but what I’m sort of missing is that sit-down-for-coffee friend. I’m in New England (reluctant to give more details). See, I had a best…

Your post made me cry. I’m nb trans... afab... haven’t and probably won’t medically transition. I’m closeted everywhere except on Reddit and here, because I know I wouldn’t be able to deal with people ridiculing my pronouns or my gender. My mother can’t even stop snarking about me being vegetarian, so I can’t imagine…

some people are posting #metoo just for attention

Thanksgiving update: sexual assault and trans politics discussion edition. My sis and bro-in-law are not bad people. I enjoy hanging with them. But sometimes when I visit their gender politics are realllly hard to be around. Three snippets from this week:

1) I jump in the sister’s car when I arrive. One of the first…

tbh I’m pretty certain the people who’ve convinced themselves their first kiss was some sort of transcendent experience must have been drunk/high

I’m a little late on this, since it didn’t happen this week.... But I got an offer for a tenure-track job.

Hey you,

I’ve been following your posts about little Catalina and it’s wonderful to get updates and hear she is doing so well. She looks beautiful!

Please pass on to shortpale, I am in the greys, I’ve left this message on the link you provided but not sure she will see where grey.

Hey all, just wanted to say thanks to everyone who offered up advice last week. Things aren’t ‘better’ but they are...more stable, I guess. I’m taking up a lot of the things you suggested-recording what I can, spending as much time together as possible, being as present as possible, getting the ‘hard stuff’ out of the…

That’s cute that you’re under the impression that we can’t be angry and actively act upon all of these things simultaneously but I’m here to tell you that we fucking can. In the past month I’ve helped people in Alabama register to vote, called my senators an obscene amount of times, raised over $300 for a nonprofit in…

I’m glad you’re starting to feel better!

No, if they voted for Trump. There’s not enough chemistry and charisma for me to overlook that. Dig further and figure out why he holds those views and where he stands on issues/policies that are important to you. Decide what you’re willing to make peace with and what would a deal breaker for you. Remember, there were…

This is really mean. You didn’t need to word your response this way. People who are inexperienced with romantic relationships at any age tend to be self-conscious about it, and about reading signals from people. Be a little sensitive. This was unnecessary.

I am really tired of the “he wasn’t ACTUALLY touching her in the photo” defense.