41 here. Can confirm. If anything, the more I see of the world, the more convinced I am of our general interconnectedness, and that my survival is greatly dependent on the health of the whole.

It sounds like you were an unusually mature high schooler. The thing is, if everything is working for you personally, it takes an extra bit of self-awareness to see what’s wrong. She got there, but it took her a few more years than you did.

You’re a hero! Kids are still salvageable at that age and your totally appropriate metaphorical butt-kicking may save the world from another entitled brat down the line.

I love that you call home.

I’ve told interviewers before to pardon me but I wasn’t wearing a suit or the present employer would know I was interviewing. They universally understood. Times are a changing!

Laughing is rude though. I used to cover San Fran for a NYC based firm and sometimes heard NYC based people comment that they wanted to kill themselves during conference calls because of how slow the SF people talked. But going down that rabbit hole means nobody ends up friends.

Agree! And with your sensible addition of leggings, you do not even have to shave!!! I wore skirts back in the day but got tired of them turning around on me when I walked, plus then you have to think about two things.

This is an awesome idea!

I just googled her and you are right; she is a very lovely, young brown-skinned lady.

Agree, the main thing is that you cannot purchase a seriously well-fitting bra without first going for a real live fitting in a store. That goes for a sports bra or any other kind of bra. That’s why you served your clients so well and why i would not invest in this rubber band thingy. I have good bras that I had…

If someone cut my hair without permission, they would die a slow and painful death. I remember being super pissed just reading ‘The Rape of the Lock’ in college.

We are all good in the hood! :)

The good news is that you’re not done in the friend-making department. I’ve definitely had friends who got completely absorbed in their relationships, but not everyone is like that. The other important thing to note is that those women who make the mistake of ditching their female friends are often sorry soon after,…

I’d love to have gone to an all girl’s high school (so much bullshit would have been avoided!) but women’s colleges have their own merits. For example, no binge drinking as a compulsory sport, lovely dorms and campuses because nobody breaks shit, fantastic classes where you are treated seriously. Yes, it does impede…

Serious question—do men have conversations with each other about how to handle stuff like this? Women definitely do. As in, we definitely have conversations about whether you will look like a psycho stalker if you send another text, call to find out why he didn’t answer the text, etc. Part of female friendship is…

I am a woman who will show attraction to/occasionally ask out a dude, especially on line. That means I get rejected sometimes. And sometimes it sucks, but whatevs, you move on!

I’d rather not have cash, but if that’s where we’re going, then cash is better than a cash card. My sister always gives me American Express which I really don’t like because if the card is for $50 and you want something for $75, you have to figure out how that works and they are hard to use on-line. I’d much rather…

Thank you! I angrily replied and then saw you had given a much more succinct version here.

I think what you are saying is that you have more plausible deniability with Allen, which is exactly what all of the actors and cogs in the Hollywood machine rely on to keep working with him. Allen also has the advantage of being a white man and so is not subject to the ‘see black men are terrible’ script that is…