What's so puzzling to me is that the groom and bride have a "don't ask, don't tell" policy about strippers, which makes it sketchy somehow. I mean, if you're going to put yourself in a sexual situation I would hope you could be totally honest about it!

Haha, even as I typed "don't come" I was like... Can this possibly be good advice? But I'm glad that the intimacy thing made sense to you. I adore talking about sex and relationships and so it was great to find someone who has been dealing with similar issues. And yeah, I hate that old joke about bisexuals being…

Thank you so much for your perspective! I think I realized last night that I wasn't as bothered by the strippers as I was worried about the type of guy who would be there. Turns out I was right - apparently some of the groom's friends said some appalling stuff last night (including rape jokes - they sound like mega…

I'm glad what I said makes sense!

I don't mind my husband finding other women attractive - god knows I do! I just want him to respect women who might be in this delicate situation. If he sees them naked I want him to see them as people rather than as a set of boobs!

Yeah - I think because he is so trustworthy all of the time, and because of previous (shitty, so shitty) relationships, I occasionally wonder when the other shoe is going to drop. I acknowledge that everyone makes mistakes, of course, but the fact that my previous boyfriend dumped me by confessing he had slept with…

That's fair - it is okay for me to be uncomfortable. I can feel that way and not have it be the end of the world. And honestly? There may be times when he feels uncomfortable. For example, you mentioned going out with friends (which I am not doing tonight because I am in my ugliest pajamas!): I started going to…

Re: your ETA: I totally got that you are not judging my hubs. But yes! I completely agree that it is crazy that I should have to sit at home and text him and not get answers and wonder and go a bit crazy... And I think it is somehow worse that HE is supposed to be cool with masculinity = objectifying women. I mean,…

Thank you, thank you for putting into words what I've been thinking.

Thanks for the response. I just feel like I should be cool about it but I am not! I mean, we are married, and things are pretty good between us, but... And I don't want to feel irrational and jealous, but... It's like I am fighting a battle with myself over something which I'd like to be cool with, you know? But I…

Oh my god, I know exactly what you're talking about. I had about six months of this (very intense, couldn't think about anything else, turned on by the dumbest things) while I was engaged to my now-husband. I would even cry because of it, I felt so unsatisfied. I don't totally know what it was, but oddly enough later…

I'm so sorry. I never had pets as a child (allergic to everything) but even at 25 when my grandmother's standard poodle and best friend passed it really hurt. Big hugs for you and the kiddo.

I'm concerned that we might be getting snow next week. I am so not ready! Admittedly the mid-Atlantic area is not known for accurate weather reports (or, you know, reliable seasons). And I don't know if you experience this wherever you are near DC, but I would rather avoid the massive rush of panicked people in the…

I actually clicked to say the same thing - I think we need more mixed gender friendships on TV! Pete and Myka are friends and that is a good thing - not every relationship between a woman and a man is about sex. Especially seeing as they're partners in a professional sense; we need to see more realistic, non romantic…

(rant) Barney Stinson.

Okay, open question and all view points very much requested and respected: how do I handle my husband going to a bachelor party tonight and seeing strippers?

I gobble up television shows on netflix, so I'd suggest Call the Midwife followed by the somewhat lighter Bomb Girls. CtM is jaw droppingly amazing and BG is oddly soothing and addictive.

I totally agree in the weirdest way... I just feel like he is begging to be topped. Like, he needs a lady to tell him what to do. BDSM CARTOON AND NOW I AM A TERRIBLE PERSON.

Sounds just like me! $150 for my psych, and again only once every three months (for only 25 minutes!), plus close to $700 a month for my meds which haven't been covered by insurance because I have to take the label. Switching to a new provider for next year, but it really makes me feel crappier about my mental health…

Sorry this is so late... I am an Old and go to bed early on Saturday nights.