"My favorite game in elementary school, by the way, involved pretending to be Bette Midler in Hocus Pocus and sucking the life out of my friends. I did not grow up to be a murderous witch."

I guess that's basically what the article is saying with that quote. Glad I'm not the only one!

I'm kind of hoping he knew? Or said it was fine? But I guess we don't know :-(

This may be a weird and unfounded connection to make.

That is especially frightening considering that doing such a thing would greatly reduce the chances of your rapist being prosecuted.

I'm sure the writer didn't "mean it that way", but I am having the same reaction. Seems so icky.

I don't like the idea of "fair game", but I agree with this part of Lindy's article strongly. I agree with it about thin privilege, white privilege, male privilege, and class privilege.

I sympathize, because I used to be thin like that too. Didn't really work at it, just had a high metabolism or something. I had to eat a lot to avoid getting emaciated. People were always concern trolling me about being anorexic. I am flat chested too, so guys used to shout, "Hey, are you a girl or a boy! You look…

Sorry, my feet are too swollen right now for anything but flip-flops. Can't even wear sandals with a horizontal strap, has to be the v shape. Used to hate 'em, now they're a godsend.

Although, from what little I know of hostage negotiation, listening to her relate the details it sounds like she instinctively did exactly the right things.

Me too (white), so I obviously don't have the same experiences as people of color and while I believe that it's worse for them, I think I can sympathize. Almost all my run-ins with police have been negative, even when I wasn't doing anything wrong. I was going to say I've never had a cop be decent to me, but then I…

I'm pretty short and I got the same reactions. Even when I was thin. And I'm reasonably pretty.

This is a pet peeve of mine as well.

> Oh, I totally agree women will never match men's appetite levels.

I just said the same thing. I'm a woman, but I've heard that often enough from guy acquaintances to think it's a more widespread experience than popular culture admits.

I'm not sure that men automatically enjoy themselves as much as you're implying.

THAT is my biggest problem with cops. Because many of them do not like it when you exercise your rights to determine if they really are who they say they are, etc. They want you to do what they say immediately, and if they take exception to the way you are or aren't doing it, no matter if you are in the right, not…

I don't know that much about Maureen Dowd, I guess. But I've always sort of passively liked her, so this makes me sad.

No kidding! I'm not a sports person at all, but I grew up tailgating and going to college games (FSU :-P). When I was old enough to decide my own activities, I stopped going or paying attention. But even I don't need anyone to "explain" football to me and I know plenty of women here in the South who are huge, huge…

Same here. I'd feel this sort of urge to cheer, but my better self would be admonishing, "Tsk! It's wrong to use someone's picture without their consent."