He sounds frankly deranged. I'm shocked that he is a psychologist. Ugh.

Yes you're right every single person who has an unplanned pregnancy (50% of all pregnancies if the stats are to be believed) has poor impulse control and will not only have an unproductive life but so they will their children. And definitely they are all "hoodrats". Interesting that you use a racially loaded term…

Having parents with poor future time orientation and impulse control which normally leads to having a child that they cannot raise and thus leaves them for adoption means that their children will be the same.

If this is how you present yourself in real life, I'm not surprised you're running into difficulties adopting. I'd tell you it was $100K just to get you out of the office.

Yeah... this is a strange internet argument to witness. For what it's worth... you make sense and the highly intelligent, athletic dude comes off sort of weird.

I am so glad someone else was as put off by that statement as I was. I seriously had to reread it several times.

I admit I only have two graduate degrees to your three, but I did a vast amount of research myself before pursuing adoption. I know how much it costs. I also know that there are unethical and problematic practices in adoption, but there are also children who need homes, both in the US and abroad, and there are…

That's just not accurate. Adoptions do not have to cost 50k; not all agencies have different rates by child's age; depending on the route you choose the costs may be completely covered by the adoption tax credit because children need homes and I just... can't even with your attitude.

Whoa, whoa, whoa. Adoption is not "basically buying children". I grant you the point that someone with tons of money could potentially shop around until they found an agency willing to approve them / someone willing to choose them as adoptive parents because of their perceived advantages, but adoption is not…

I worked for one of those companies and it was NOT any place that I would ever recommend for women. In fact, when I was pregnant, my own supervisor moved me off of projects and I was corrected for bringing up my maternity leave on a conference call (as in "So and so will take over the final steps of planning for that…

If Soon-Yi was, indeed, the physically abused child of a prostitute for the first four or five years of her life, which is what's been said, then she'd have all sorts of reasons to hate and distrust a mother figure. It would also make a weird sort of sense to be sexually competitive with a mother figure and to be…

Maybe your "winning attitude" of thinking adoptive parents buy children is what is keeping you from the job, not your gender.

Wait, wait, "adoption is nothing but buying children"?

Bravo rubysecret, my work brings me into contact with a lot of adoptive families and some of those kids have real issues—generally, the older the child at the time of the adoption, the more likely issues are. And they just don't disappear—thus, the rate of failed adoptions. While I get how people are upset about…

Don't get me wrong, babies can definitely be born with severe complications because the mother was using crack cocaine... but no, there's no such thing as a crack baby.

This is the heart of the matter! How much of an observed learning disability is due to an incorrect estimate of the child's age, how much is due to being understimulated in an institutional setting and is correctable over time (so milestones will be achieved with support but will just take time) and how much is an…

It may sound crazy but there ARE people with learning, emotional, AND moral disabilities. It's possible to be borderline retarded and manipulative.

Exactly. And families may struggle for years to get their children appropriate services because according to their age estimates on adoption decrees, they are too old / too young to qualify for those services. It's more than just a number.

A lot of adopted children will have behavior issues, whether you're rich or poor. The nine months you spend in womb can shape your life. If your bio mother is stressed, unhealthy, depressed, etc., it can cause you to have mental illness, addiction problems, etc. Mia also adopted a lot of children with disabilities.…

Yes. I have a sister who was adopted from Korea. Her stated age at the time was 5, but she was the size and maturity of a 3 year old, because there was no way for them to know other than estimating her teeth or something like that. In Korea at the time, "prostitute" was the general assumption about the all mothers…