I have met several folks making it work, but they all identified as poly going into those relationships, rather than “opening up” a relationship that was originally intended to be monogamous. I remember attending a party with a bunch of them and I was struck by how chill and relaxed the vibe was -like you don’t even…

Men’s style trends are always along the lines of “wait, men shouldn’t have to do any styling whatsoever.”

I’m more cool with the chihuahua thing. To each his own.

I actually really like grey hair. I liked it pre-trend, I liked it while it was A Big Thing, and I still like it now. Mine’s currently smoky-blue-lavender, which is as close as I can get to “steel” without double-bleaching it. I’m 44 and I think it’s fine? I’d care less about grey making me look older/younger and more…

I do think that because the average man has a better guarantee of orgasm in an average encounter than an average woman (note the #notallmen is built right in!!), keeping desire alive without novelty is perhaps easier for men. If you’re a woman who needs 45 minutes to get there and it’s 11:30 on a Tuesday night, maybe…

you sound bitter, becasue you can’t have everything you want.

Well, you know what they say about men whose eyebrows meet, right?

The NYT men’s style section is like a goddamn luxury mad libs. Random, haughty, and delightfully ridiculous.

Like a lot of “trends” (ugh), this only really works if you’re already Very Conventionally Attractive. Then, it’s an interesting imperfection/quirk, rather than Yet Another Thing That’s Wrong With Your Face. Thanks but nah.

No.

Also, male ego gets in the way of most guys actually being ok with an open relationship. What they really mean is THEY want an open relationship, they want you to be the main girl who only wants them. I am strongly monogamous/traditional, and have had three ex’s suggest opening up the relationship. As soon as another…

No.

“because of patriarchy women will find it easier to find men.”

That’s a clever insight! I was thinking that it might be ***TRIGGER WARNING FOR MRA SNOWFLAKES*** that women simply get bored with the traditional, male-orgasm-oriented missionary PIV sex that was all too typical in ’02 (when the data was collected), or even that as relationships become more domestic, women simply…

My wife and I were never monogamous so jealousy and distrust were never an issue. Strangely enough though the deeper we got into our relationship the less interested we were in pursuing outside partners individually. The option is still there but lately all our extramarital sex has been threesomes or at least with the…

Sometimes it does explode, but I’ve seen it done successfully quite a bit. Jealousy can be an issue but it can also be worked on and managed. Something really everyone could use a bit of.

I’m thinking that the precipitous drop in desire for women has to be due in part to hormonal birth control. That stuff can be like chemical castration for me.

Speaking as a somewhat well-to-do Caucasian male...

Privileged white men are the worst.

Why do Universities continue to believe they can get away with crap like this? ... Do they just assume no one will ever talk?