Give people two weeks’ notice if you can. I’ve missed so many good events and parties because I’d already booked something else.

“Being assaulted by a man who later acknowledged being gay confused me so much about my own sexuality because I connected my sexuality to being abused. It took years to rework that my sexuality was not borne out of pain.”

I can’t recall why it came up but I recently told someone “I would lay down in traffic for Drew Magary.” They seemed so surprised but I was like, “Yeah no Drew is a thoughtful and generous person and I would do anything for him.” Thanks for writing this, Drew, and proving me right. (I love being right!)

Unironically, the starch from corn.

As an autistic person it blows my mind that people would rather have a dead kid than an autistic one.

Only some of our posts are evil. We’re so nice that we can’t help it. (The evil ones are all tagged “Evil Week” and have a logo on the featured image.)

Whether you have romantic love or not, you should always be seeking fulfillment outside of your current relationship.

As a woman who’s been assaulted in ways large and small, I would say don’t contact them. The most likely outcome of that is that YOU feel better, and she’s forced to relive what happened. I doubt the men who have harassed me even think of themselves as harassers or guilty of assault, but all I would want from them is…

I don’t need, nor believe that I will ever need to read pieces like this in order to remember or re-remember the times when I have been too aggressive with women or too casual about receiving consent. I’m pretty sure these memories will always be with me. I agree with the author about the false dichotomy of good and…

Yeah, I’m no longer young enough to correct the errors of my drunken 20s, but I have a girl and a boy that I’m trying really hard to instill the importance of boundaries and consent. I need them to know that they should never do anything they’re uncomfortable for someone else’s approval and to know that the absence of…

Honestly, it would just make me more uncomfortable to know that one of the men from my past had been thinking deeply about a specific event or experience. But a simple and genuine “I’ve been thinking a lot about my own behavior and I know that I said / did things around you that I’m now very embarrassed about. If you…

Fwiw the fact that a lot of men do seem to be getting the message and trying to re-examine does mean something. It’s not easy to soul search like that, so the number of men saying similar things all over the comments gives me some hope.

Yeah I’ve been replaying some shitty behavior in my 20s in my mind. I was pushy at times. I never ignored a hard no, but I did try to get people to change minds, stuff like that. I feel a little sick thinking about it, and I wish I knew then what I know now.

It certainly did me. It has forced me to re-evaluate a lot of my previous interactions with women. It has also made me realize I need to be exceedingly proactive in teaching my son about consent, boundaries, accountability, etc.

I hope this makes some of those “good men” try to remember the things they have forgotten. I hope that realizing you are an unself-aware part of the solution is still part of the problem. It certainly had that effect on me.

I watched the Nanny all throughout my childhood, but I had no idea Fran Drescher was such a badass! What a cool thing to learn!

Great article again, Michelle.

In my experience working at companies with dog policies, I’ve never spent ONLY 8 hours there. More like 12-15 hours a day during the busy seasons. 10-12 any other season. It’s ‘Startup Culture’ I don’t recommend it and I do agree with you, dogs should stay at home.

Look, I like dogs, mostly. I had a dog growing up that I really loved. But like, dog obsession is making me anti-dog. Maybe it’s really just anti-teamdog and dog people.

Yeah you’re about the only person who feels that way. It was brilliant.