Congrats on your baby girl! And I totally hear you on all of it. I fear I came across too much like I was judging mothers who DO choose to make the baby the be all end all for whatever amount of time, and I don't mean that at all. At core, I'm a "you do you, special snowflake" kinda person. My passion comes from the…

Amen, sister. (also, so sorry about the PPA). In re: this whole culture of mom shaming:

YUP.

Okay then, I apologize for reading things into your comment that weren't there. And as I said, I have no love at all for the Kardashians. I am more interested in the judgment of mothers who may choose on occasion to take time for themselves or for their partnership. There's a lot of mom shaming in this world, Kim just…

First, marriage = partnership, same thing. Two parent couple who is together. Same difference.

You make fair points, and I may come across as not practicing what I preach in terms of how moms "should behave." In point of fact, if you as a mom want to make your kid your primary focus, never leave it, whatever, totally cool! You do you, mama bear! I guess I feel the need to swing the pendulum so far to the other…

Exactly. Ugh. What I hate most about this mom shaming is that it's largely a woman on woman crime. Hurts my heart.

Ah, see now we get to it, the judgment of it all. You'd do no judgy mcjudgering if it were an earnest working mother who had to travel for business, so clearly you don't think the baby is in any real immediate danger from 3 days away from her mother. What you want to do is dictate how mothers can spend their time and…

Sentient was an exaggeration for effect. Of course the baby is fucking sentient. Jesus Christ. And who said anything about extended period of time? They were there for like 3 days!!! What if she were a working mother, hmmm? I often have work trips for 3 days, and maternity leave in this fine country end around 3…

Thanks. I am sorry about yours, too. And yeah, time makes it easier in the acute ways but not in the soul deep ones. Like, yeah, it wasn't out-of-my-mind painful to watch the Sox (our thing) last night, but when I confront the totality of what he has missed (over 1/4 of my life) it can be staggering. I mean, the man…

Um, pretty sure she can pump and have milk for the baby in her absence for at least a day and then she has the means to frickin' hand deliver her pumped milk on a Lear Jet each subsequent day she is gone, if she wants. Or hey, maybe she also breast and formula feeds? Who knows? Bet the kid is getting fed nutritiously…

Yep. True fact, sister. Unless there was, like, a memorial event or something, missing the anniversary of a death is just not a fucking thing. Oct 16 is the 11th anniversary of my dad and there is not a chance I won't acknowledge it and think of him, as I do most days of my life. This is my general reaction to these…

Last night I didn't make a peep. I think I was on the verge of a stroke for most of the game. The previous night was full of invective and yelling (often together) which the lab actually thought was kinda scary-hilarious and a signal of manic play time, "here let me bring you my stuffed meercat, let's play so you're…

1) I am sure she is pumping too and can bottle that shit right up. 2) She left the kid for like 3 days not 3 months. Hardly earth shattering. 3) She likely has nannies that are co-primary care givers, which makes this possible and easy for her unlike us poor(er) folk. 4) why does it have to be a choice of who comes…

Maybe their primary nanny couldn't make the trip? Maybe they wanted the baby to stay close to family since they were going to be busy all day/night long and the family has stateside obligations? Maybe they wanted to make it a romantic getaway and have tons of monkey sex all over the hotel room? Does it matter? My…

I sincerely don't understand ANY of the fuss by anyone about Kim going to Paris with Kanye. Leaving aside how much I hate these people, becoming a mother does not mean Kim should subjugate everything else about herself and her relationship for her child. That's frankly unhealthy to me. I believe marriages and children…

No frickin' clue. There was no source at my newly-found favorite website reactiongifs.com.

My reaction to this news:

Oh man, this dog shaming meme is spectacularly hilarious but also makes me feel bad/guilty/slightly uncomfortable (pet parent shaming!). My big brown baby girl is SO intuitive and sensitive to my every mood (case in point: I was watching the Red Sox game last night and was in high stress mode, not saying a word or…

And I have exceedingly narrow hips so even when super thin (uh, 20 years ago in HS/college) my thighs always touch. Thus I got over the impossible desire of a thigh gap at 18.