Rape is more complex than what you're making it out to be. You can't put rapists in one neat category and say that they're beyond reform (like you could say about some violent criminals with brain disorders, for example).
Acorn's point about her own rape underscores that it's not just violent rape that we often see in…
You said that violence has occurred throughout time, before media, but I never said it didn't. I'm not disputing the fact that some terrible people will always do terrible things, but we shouldn't normalise that behaviour for the entire populace through video games like we currently are.
Sure, one game might condemn…
There's several studies showing that violence in video games does contribute to aggression and violence in real life here , here , and here .
Also, you're misrepresenting my argument. Did I ever say video games and other media are solely responsible for violence? Of course not, that is absurd. The thing is, violence…
Lots of horrible things happen in real life, but that doesn't mean we should encourage people to enact these things in media, including video games. Time and time again, this type of representation (particularly in video games, where the player chooses to commit acts of violence) have been shown to desensitise…
She's saying it pre-emptively because whenever black hair and the politicization of black hair is brought up, some white person chimes in saying "but I also have curly hair and I'm not black, but it's hard to deal with, blah blah blah." That is not helpful, and moreover, it's not the fucking point, so she wasn't being…
Well there have been tons of comments on this already, but you know who cares? Parents, and other non-parents, like myself, who think comparing parenthood to pet ownership is ridiculous. You can empathize with someone without making false equivalencies that inherently underestimate and undervalue the amount of work…
Right? I have child-bearing hips, but somehow always end up with my knees squished together because some entitled a-hole wants to air out his balls.
Yeah, that was a single example, but the phrasing of the question expressed that the friend was consistently comparing pet care to parenthood, which is just not the same. I'm sure you can make specific, individual equivalencies, but by and large they are very very different.
We just want to be able to sit with our legs straight out, in proportion to our hips (at least I do). I shouldn't have to scrunch my legs together like that just so you can air out your balls. He's encroaching into her personal space.
As opposed to women who have....?
Oh, you're limiting the whole argument to getting dogs and kids into cars? I thought you were making a broader claim about taking care of kids vs. pets, as the writer only used that as one example. Sorry, didn't realise your comment was so situation-specific.
And you are a very very good person and friend.
If people consider their pets their kids, I find it eye-roll inducing, but they can do what they will. They just need to know pets aren't the same human children.
Totally agreed. I know parents who go overboard and it frustrates me - I do try to steer them in another direction or bring up other topics.. But I don't think comparing an animal to a tiny human is the way to do that.
Of course taking care of pets is time consuming and difficult, and certainly a commitment. I don't at all mean to undermine that. At the same time, it's not the same thing as taking care of a tiny human, and I'm so glad you realise that.
Are you joking? I have neither kids nor dogs, but having cared for both, there is no way you can compare taking care of dogs to taking care of human babies. They might both be difficult and time consuming, but identical? Nope.