But obviously you have the privilege of someone else being able to support you. I also have a non-profit job and could not afford infant day care. I worked days and my husband worked nights, because we could not have survived on one salary.

I hear that, but I think it's important to recognize that SAHM mothers are often SAHMs due to the power of choice and privilege, and while it sucks to have your choice disrespected, it's much worse to be shamed for something beyond your control.

There are plenty of feminist SAHMs. But this article picked a poor example of one (I get the magazine and read it 2x before this post even came out, she doesn't come off well). I would love to see more feminist SAHMs writing about their feminism while mothering, and the issues that the come up against from both…

I don't think the privilege makes a SAHM anti-feminist, I know a lot of feminist SAHMs. It does get problematic when a SAHM tells a working mom that she is home because she thinks it's "better for kids" when that working mom didn't have a choice. But not all SAHMs are like that.

That was our experience for the first 8 months after my maternity leave ended. I wish there was more talk of this; my husband felt very alone.

Well, I'm a highly-educated, professional feminist mom, and I hate to say it, but your friend is right. I wish it wasn't the case, because I'd have had more sleep, but when my son woke up crying in the night I would pop awake, and would have to shake my husband awake when it was his "turn". It became so ridiculous…

Every husband's wife is somebody's friend.

"Oh god, the thing where the people whose parents pay their cellphones, college tuition, health insurance and car payment love going to dive bars so they can feel authentically gritty. " DEATH TO THESE PEOPLE

Ok, so now I will never read the parenting articles on Jezebel again. I love it when the childfree tell me I'm not good enough to parent because I couldn't afford to stay home and exclusively breastfeed. And, you know, I may not have stayed home full-time even if I could have. Fuck the internet sometimes.

OMFG—- I take back my defense of this article. So sorry you can't even get fat ugly girls to fuck you. Stay masturbating.

Yeah, I agree. I love my husband so much, but I have a full range of feelings for every guy that has touched my life. I can only assume this guy must have a history of douchieness because everyone is so against him, like you wouldn't know about Hugo S from the occasional good article.

You win.

And I said that as someone who exclusively breast fed for 5 months. Moms here are preachy as hell.

I don't know where you are from, but in NYC it's up there with punching your child in the face. Everything in NYC is like preparing for college applications and anyone who can be seen making the more "enlightened choice" will reinforce this times a million.

God, I hate people like this. Do you go up to women on the subway and ask if their bottles have BPA? I was raised by a single mother who worked her ass off and we ate fast food or frozen pizza almost every night because of that. If that doesn't seem conceivable, check your privilege.

yes.

There you go... You need to teach a class.

This.

See, I don't feel that just because a woman is successful and I (a feminist) thinks some of her songs are catchy = she is a feminist. Katy Perry so obviously is not one (I Kissed a Girl, Ur So Gay) and I do not question her when she explicitly states this. I am capable of buying a few MP3's of someone who does not…

I'll amend this. SAHMs who say that they are doing what's best for their kids etc... are basically stating that they are superior because they have economic privilege. Many of us do not have the economic privilege to stay home with our kids, and it makes us livid when SAHMs frame this as a good parenting choice as…