The mama bear was already tagged, meaning she has been labeled a “nuisance.” Where I live, once bears are registered, they are on a fast track to be euthanized. :-( It’s hard to be an urban bear.

Our other daughter (who is in an art school with no Greeks and no sports!) was a cheerleader for about a year in high school. Yet another misunderstood and insulted group. It was so good for her.

And mayyyyybe it’s the pre-rush and rush process that makes it seem like that’s all they are about? The lists of required clothes, etc.

Probably!! That’s what we have said for ages. 😊 But she also loves it.

Her whole life was that conversation. She is a child with not 2, but 4 lesbian moms. Super feminists, one of whom was a trail blazer for a gay student group at her own college 30 years ago. Kids are who they are. Our other daughter is a fashion major with a women and gender studies minor. You can’t make this stuff…

An in my 18 year experience, this young woman was always attracted to this particular college experience, always had a million reasons why it was actually a great and perfect thing, and was single minded in pursuit of her plans. I have never actually been around someone who is so completely and totally determined to…

I’m speaking in generalities of course. I see this sorority life thing kind of the same way my drug dealer boyfriend in high school was so much cuter once I knew my parents disapproved. Only I was often in actual physical danger, and the same cannot be said for the attraction to Greek life. But just as mysterious for…

Exactly!! She is reasonably grounded, but she is also a young woman of her era. No matter what parents say, the influence of pop culture and peers trumps all. (Eww, I said. “Trump.”) but that doesn’t mean our values have been abandoned. It’s her college experience, and she needs to be able to check out this kind of…

The idea that the university says they don’t approve is also bullshit. Nobody is operating in a vacuum, as evidenced by the football game in the video.

Forbidding and refusing to support it will only make it the most awesome thing ever.

It’s funny-we have one daughter who is in a D1 school with big sports and big Greek life. The other is at an urban art college with no greek life and no sports. Your kids will be who they are.

Image is a big deal these days, and in the age of social media, it probably is exponentially greater.

EXACTLY!!!! Everyone rebels in one way or another. A 3.5 GPA and perfect hair doesn’t really leave us with a lot to complain about. She’s a good liberal, so not completely Alex P!

She is an adult and this is her path. She wanted this from wayyyyyy before she ever left for college. I don’t know how old your kids are, but the less pushback from parents on things like boyfriends and sororities and other things they feel strongly about, the better. So, “okay” is a broad term. She seems happy , she…

I am at another D-1 school right this second dropping off our Alpha Phi daughter. They produced the exact same video with a different location. The emphasis on conformity is astounding and the buy-in is 150%. It is ALL about beauty and sexuality. Our daughter was raised in a pretty non-traditional family, which is not…

I know someone who had a reduction at 17 and then again at 27. Does that mean she had the first one before they had stopped growing?

Oh! The last time I watched they were still in high school. It seemed like high school was going to go on forever.

The sad thing about these protracted custody battles is that the kids keep growing. Nobody freezes in time while the parents duke it out.

Unpaid internships should be illegal.

I got a bunch right too - but it was all luck. Swear. Pinky swear.