We did this in the daycare I worked at. Not only that no means no, but you need to ASK for friend for PERMISSION to touch her/etc and wait until she says YES before proceeding. Takes it beyond “grab her and stop if she says no” into “don’t even touch her in the first place unless she says yes.”

I should add that I'm not engaged or even in a committed relationship. I just am genuinely glad for my friends who get married—most of whom are hovering around the poverty line—and enjoy spending their day with them/helping them acquire the household they need.

Not all of us are wealthy and stable enough to have bought every household set and appliance we need, nor do we all live together before marriage. And for those who do, I would argue a registry is even more important. People are gonna bring gifts—might as well get the couple something they actually need/want.

She makes it very clear that she isn't concerned for herself but for new and struggling artists.

This. This. A thousand times this.

Can you please not? This is simply a version of “don’t let yourself be a victim” and it’s very victim blaming and shaming to those of us who have PTSD. We aren’t weak; we have PTSD! Would you tell a war veteran to just “get over” being triggered by gunfire or fireworks or having flashbacks? Don't make this our fault.

To be fair, when I first read the headline I didn't take it as literal/sexual—I thought it was going to be about a complicated father/daughter relationship ie I met my father and he turned out to be a jerk and I had to get over idealising him. A TW might have been helpful to clarify that this would be about GSA.

Perfectly stated.

Just because a survivor hasn't commented doesn't mean a survivor hasn't read this.

Nice victim blaming there.

Because insisting that victims keep all this in the dark adds to their shame and perpetuates the issues in our society.

I don’t think this has much to do with the tired old “kids these days entitled generation” argument (which is super problematic for about 50 different reasons) and more to do with white privilege.

Many people have written articles on this topic. Lift your fingers, go to the magical place called Google, and find them.

My mom is afraid of deep water. One of my friends is afraid of heights. Others are afraid of close spaces, or spiders, or dogs. People often avoid the things that they fear, which is fine. Why does it bother you so much that someone in the comments section of an article doesn't want to swim in the ocean?

But she did gain custody of her brother—there must have been some reason for that.

I would find that weird too—like bringing it up in front of you. Also it’s someone else’s shower—I dunno, I just wouldn't care for people having sex in my common areas.

You mean being publicly smeared and called a whore, plus having underage photos of you plastered across the media as “evidence” that you're a stupid, bratty little slut-slut isn't worth getting angry about?

How was it not aimed at her? She is Hispanic!

So I guess by your logic, I'm not allowed to feel angry/marginalised by bi phobia or homophobia when straight people make nasty comments when they assume I'm straight?

Really? If he doesn't respond to anything you send him, you should probably stop.